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In second year of university (2015), my boyfriend, who was my friend in second year, used to bang on about this speciic girl all the time. In second year, although we weren't together, he knew of my feelings and he told me how he felt about me so it was near the time we were about to be together. Anyways there's this girl at uni he always went on about, how she had a nice body and a nice bum and he would get all schoolboyish around her and even said once in the canteen that he was standing next to her so didnt know whether to talk to her or not. Anyways, a month or so down the line, she added him on facebook and he told me how she started chatting to him first and he was just being friendly. I didn't like it considering how amazing she thought she looked and how he went on about her at uni when he saw her. Anyways nothing happened throughout the year, but sometimes they spoke briefly about uni work or whatever. Then I logged on to his facebook in january last month and saw the messages from 2015 in second year, and turns out he was the one who actually started chatting to her first, meaning he had lied to me all this time. Anyways we argued about it along with loads of other stuff that was going on. But he knows I wouldn't be jumping up and down if he continously spoke to this girl about irrelevant shit. We argued enough about her cos of how he used to go on about her. I trust hm, and I know he wouldn't do anything with her but it still makes me feel uncomfortable. So today, she messaged him in regards to uni work. He replied, which is fine, but then she started to chat to him, talking about other stuff, and I got really angry, because why the fuck is he entertaining her, what else apart from uni work do they need to talk about? I just feel uncomfortable with it because of how he went on about her and how he lied about her talking first. We just had a massive argument and he's sticking to the fact that he can talk to her if he wants and how I should trust him. What do you guys think? Cos I am fucking fuming. I've been through a lot in the last 2 years and things have gotten so bad for me recently so I thought the least he could do is not reply to one bitch! anyways what do you guys think, am I being crazy?
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Which explains the mysterious fevers and my extra fatigue. I'm so glad I pushed for answers.
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Due to my increased paranoia, anxiety, and a panic attack over the weekend, my psychiatrist has put me back in a full dose of Zyprexa until further notice. Every time I think I'm getting ahead something happens and it's back to square one. I knew he was gonna do this but I can't help feeling disappointed. It is what it is.
He's the one being dishonest with you sweetie not her..... and I'm sorry that you've been hurt
When he's gone on about her body and her butt that's something completely different then buddies.and then he lied to you.... He's told you he's attracted to her..
It's not a good vibe for the future I don't think.... He's a liar from what you've written here so how can you trust him?
I think if he's stating I can talk to her if he wants that's a big challenge for you.... I think I'd tell him to go and knock yourself out.... There's the door
Another hug......xo
Maybe you can offer him a break and say that this is not how you want your relationship to be and break it for for a couple of months, see what he does .
If he truly loves you, he will do everything he can to get back together. If not, he will go after that girl and you will know for sure what to do.
I would just try to get honest with yourself about him, for real. I always say this but it has helped me when trying to figure out what I should do in some situations: If you had good friend who was going through this situation, what would you tell her? You'd probably tell her, this guy is bad news, is not truthful and that she should run. Be a good friend to yourself and put a stop to this nonsense. Relationships aren't supposed to be like this.