You mean, like, posting about how your ex wife tears you down, then naming it, "bitchy women"?

Yes, makes remarks trying to upset me.

I didn't do anything, I came to get my kids. She makes a remark in front of my kids, trying to upset me.

lol Justme. right?

anywhoo, mysteryman. When someone is looking for a fight & they make a remark to cut me down. If I am feeling very strong I will say .."Oh, you sweet talker" or " You Charmer you"

If I feel like rolling around in the mud aka sinking to their level. I'll lash back.

Being able to rise above it and not absorb the misery leaves me feeling better though.

If I feel like rolling around in the mud aka sinking to their level. I'll lash back.

Being able to rise above it and not absorb the misery leaves me feeling better though.

Shasta - I love that :)

oh yes, very familiar with that... only my ex is not a woman, I am, and my ex much bitchier than me.

last argument, he was running a half hour late picking up the kids (I already had other plans), I sent him a text asking "you picking up the kids? If so, when, I am supposed to X at Y time?", I sent nothing after that... 3 hours later, he sends me a several very long nasty texts, basically saying I am crazy, blah blah blah...yeah ok.. ignore, ignore, ignore...

in the past, engaging , didn't resolved anything, shrug, instead I don't make plans close to swap time. Can't really do anything about it, no?

Well there is a reason she's an ex, right?

What I do is I just laugh at them in my head (never in their faces as that does nothing but infuriate them!) while thinking "you are so freaking pathetic!". Its hard to get mad at someone when you feel sorry for them for being SAD human beings lol

Ignore. The part about being in front of the kids would bother me, but I think I need the specific comment and situation to make a definitive judgement on that.

"What other people think of me is none of my business." When someone has something snarky or rude to say to me my default response is to play it candy sweet and rock dumb. I might smile and ask innocently, "What do you mean?" (I find people who make offhand crappy comments are usually loathe to repeat them when confronted.)

Like ShastaSue, though, there are times when I'm spoiling for a fight too. I'm not proud of the tongue lashings I've administered but at least those b!tches among me (male and female) know I'm a bear better left unpoked. Haha.

"bitchy women"

Good tactic, mysteryman, posting this on a board full of women lol!

How would I handle this? If by phone, hang up. If in person, either lash back or ignore, depending on how important I felt the cut-down was. Yeah, she's an ex, but is probably still in your life because of the kids, right? So, even though she's an ex, you gotta try to be civil, pick your battles wisely.

My ex HUSBAND loves to stick his knife in and give it a twist whenever he can, and nowadays I just totally ignore it. There is no way I am going to give him anymore pleasure out of bating me. I put up with more verbal abuse in 29 years than I ever care to deal with again in my life.
It is so nice that I can walk away from it these days, and no longer have to just take it and live with it on a daily basis.

Why stoop to their level when you don't have to anymore?

Avoid the ex at all costs...unless you are forced to be in contact...then be civil....and laugh in the car driving away from that poison

Ignore and don't give her the satisfaction of a reaction to her bitchy comments. I like to think of as the sweetest revenge when an ex can't prod any type of feelings from me. "That's right. . . I'm so over you. . . and content." :D

since you said it was in front of the kids, i'd ignore, change subject, walk away, anything BUT lash back. the kids don't need to see that. she already set the bad example, don't make it worse on the kids by showing them ANOTHER bad example. divorce is hard on all but the interactions of the parents can really mess the kids up, more than we as adults realize, they pick up on everything. so trust me, they will pick up that she was hateful, but they will also learn from you that a real man (or woman, let's say "a real adult") can control themselves in tough situations, a life lesson we all have to learn to function in society.