agree... most times when we are alone we conform to what others think we should be so they will stick around for a little while

Lucky have someone who likes loves me as am MAD odd bizarre strange etc.

Reply #2: Good for you that you got lucky! Maybe the fact that you ARE mad, odd, bizarre, strange, etc. is WHY they like you! Some of the rest of us should be so lucky.

that's the hardest...being secure enough in ourselves to be ourselves...

never pretend to be someone you aren't for a relationship...it just causes problems...trust me, i know...

be yourself, and love will find you....

Reply #4: Thank you! Yep, that's what I'm doing at this point, being the weird, goofy, sweet, sensitive, physically agile, charismatic, funny guy that I am, and I like myself. If someone else likes me too, great.

i have pretended to be something I'm not just to keep my marriage alive and I'm sick of it and not happy as a result, I have got to be true to myself we all do.

It is extremely hard to stand alone in the world. It is important, though, that before getting into a relationship you are happy and content with who you are and what your goals are. That is what I am trying to do.

It's a little different for me, I guess. I've always cherished time to be alone.
After my divorce, I moved out of State to start a new job; left an 18 year marriage, my kids, my family, my friends. Got an apartment and lived alone. I went to work on weekdays, spent the weekends cooking, cleaning, focusing on my art.
I didn't have to explain or justify to anyone. It was incredible!
After about a year, though, I noticed that I was probably too comfortable being alone; might be time to stick my head out the door a little and interact.
I took out an add in a singles publication, because I would be able to decide just who I wanted to respond to, instead of just "dating". Met and later married the love of my life. We're together because we belong together. We found each other because each of us had already been through plenty of the "other" relationships. We're together because neither of us wants to try to be anything other than what we are. I firmly believe that you can't expect to find a healthy relationship with someone else unless you have a healthy realtionship with yourself. Pete

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What I want !!

Then it becomes "we".

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Ronin: By "we", I was referring to members of this community or "we", the human race. But I know what you mean. I should use the word "I" more often, although I don't want to sound TOO self-centered...(LOL)!

Agree.
I was only speaking of this type of thing on another post recently.

You have to trust and take that trusting action before the universe / god / higher power usually supports that trust and assists you in your new way.

rajati: Interesting.

I hope i interpreted you context instead of going off on my own previous rant. any way, yes i agree it iss difficult to do - Be wht we want to attract.

As in we create our own reality?

Another way to think about it.

You are only BEING you if you know how to be alone. And only when you are being you can you attract that which you really want.

So I'm trying to be sweet with a hint of lust and mischief...(LOL)

When I'm alone, all I can do to satisfy those cravings is indulge in some (ahem) diversionary entertainment...