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koolman 01/26/2009

From what I keep reading here, ladies want to feel beautiful, sexy and loved...guys want to feel handsome, virile, sexually potent (so that our guns are always ready for you with no embarrassing impotence moments, as much for YOUR sake as ours) and, yes, some of us even want to be loved.

Thought this would crack everybody up. Opinions-? Similar sentiments-?

deleted_user 01/26/2009

I want someone who is going to be happy everyday I walk in the door whether it is a bad or good day. Who will listen and love me for who I am. And I am willing to give that right back....so yes sexy, beautiful and loved will fall in that category but it is so much more than that!

deleted_user 01/26/2009

Yes, they are from completely different planets, with different basic needs...read "Men Are From Mars, Women Are Venus" if you haven't yet. It's nuts, and so so true.

awakendwoman 01/26/2009

I don't think men and women are differnt that much. Sure, we have different ways of expressing our selves but really both want to feel loved, needed, wanted, like they are important... WE all have the same basic desires...jsut we have different ways of reaching our goals.

deleted_user 01/26/2009

I agree with awakened woman.
The important thing is that we want to feel we are loved, no matter men or women...
beautiful and hadsome are the same thing, sexy, virile and sexually potent also...
The basic human need that is hard to meet is that need to be recognised, to feel worth it, to feel that somehow, we are important to others... in one word, that we BELONG... to this world, to that place, to that family, to that group...

deleted_user 01/27/2009

humans, want acceptance...
so i guess were the same.

koolman 01/27/2009

Same needs, different approaches to getting them fulfilled...so true.

deleted_user 01/27/2009

Cannot speak for men but I know my ideal man is thoughtful, kind, LOYAL and FAITHFULL, has a sense of humor, intelligent and someone I love hanging out with.

deleted_user 01/27/2009

Everyone wants to be loved and accepted, in that way we are the same; it's the WAY that men and women consider being loved to be different. Women tend to try and love men in the way that THEY want to be loved, which might make the man feel like she does NOT love him. Vice versa with the way men love their women.

I hope that made sense. I loaned my book to a friend and can't explain it as well as the author!

awakendwoman 01/27/2009

I don't really look for any particualr quaity in a guy...just how i feel when I am around him and talking to him. Great men can have all sorts of different qualities that I never expected.

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