As a venue for meeting potential dates, dating sites are slightly better than a singles' bar. Perhaps a human matchmaker would work better for you.

I've not been on one but my niece met her hubby on a dating site and one of my closest friends met her boyfriend who's a great guy on one... I know my friend met a lot of duds before she met her current boyfriend though... I wish you well....xo

Blech! I started dating at age 50. I found nothing but liars, cheaters, cheapskates and lazy men. It was shocking. After a long marriage to a neglectful and abusive man (people have stopped me on the street to say they're 'sorry', that they found out personally only after I left my marriage, what an *sshole my ex is), I genuinely believed that there would be a nice man out here for me. People who knew my ex told me I deserved better and that they knew I'd find someone 'who'll treat you right'.

They were wrong.

I don't date anymore, not only because the quality of men on those dating sites was terrible, but because nowadays men my own age are pretty happy to stick with a 50/50 breakdown on dating expenses, and even though I work full time, it takes everything I've got to keep a roof over my head. Dating is no longer an option.

Was on plentyoffish. Had some success with it in the sense that I went on some dates. One woman I met even though I wasn't sure I was attracted to her. We had a nice, cordial conversation that was more businesslike than romantic. It ended up being a very competitive conversation, talking about career accomplishments. When it came right down to the nitty-gritty, on a personal level, I felt nothing tender toward her nor even wanted to jump her bones. I got into some very deep, loving conversations online, only to meet in person and discover that there was no light, fluffy sizzle of physical attraction there. Other ladies whom I found attractive were so rigid and so militantly perfectionistic that they'll never find a man who is right for them. Probably the closest I came to establishing a really sweet connection was this pretty Brazilian woman about 5 years my junior. We met for a coffee date, talked a bit about light-hearted stuff, and then I let the conversation drift to the dark funk of grief I was still in due to my brother's death. She was very kind and compassionate...and I never heard from her again. So it became clear I had some things to resolve within myself before I was ready to be romantic and sexual with another. I'm in much better spirits now. Decided I'd rather meet women in person. There you. can lock eyes, establish a conversational rythm and really feel warmth or lack thereof, something you simply can't ascertain online. I know one or two such women. Unfortunately, they're already involved with or married to other men. And the dark tunnel of turmoil continues to ensue...

When I was single and dating, no one seemed like a match for me. When I wasn't available, every dream man possible came my way lol. So I decided to focus on myself and not so much on dating and I ended up meeting my husband at an outing.

But to answer your questions, dating online is like a treasure hunt. It may take some time but with the right mindset and goals, you could meet someone worth your while.

The only cons to online dating is a person profile vs their reality. But you won't find this out until you really get to know someone. I think you should set goals and boundaries for yourself and what you want and have fun with it but don't waste a minute on someone who is unstable lol.

I gave up on dating sites. Guys with no job, no car, no license because of a dui, living with mom out of pure lazyness and not because of a valid reason like job loss or disability. And the friggen texting. I make it clear I don't text. If I give you my number call me. What do they do? Text. It's worthless. I'm not in a place to date but when I am, I'm going to a matchmaking service.

Soulsearcher83,

I absolutely HATE people that use texting asap first line of communication. One way to get blocked on my end lol. I only text when I'm unable to talk and that's hardly. But I can definitely agree with you on that.

As* first line of communication