Having to live with that can be draining.. My ex was into similar type of thing...bleh..so negative

It is. He has so many great and positive qualities, but this part of his personality and belief is very hard to relate to.

I've done a lot of my own personal inner work in the past several months, recovering and healing myself with a lifelong battle with depression.
The main important things that I've learned is that you really can't change others...only yourself and your own outlook, which can in turn influence those around you. I also know that I don't need to share my thoughts and beliefs with him. For one. He won't accept them and two, I need to respect his beliefs while knowing they are not true for me.
It's all very hard because we are raising children together.

Oh you will get there though. I'm a believer in therapy - there's so much to learnabout ourselves through it. I think at the end of the day its about putting theory into practice. But then if he doesn't respect your different worldview..is that to do with boundaries I wonder?

I don't know. He won't pay for therapy for myself, so I've found my own ways through self-helps which, in a way, are better. It costs nothing and I don't risk the bias of the therapist. It really pushes me to work through these things and gain the strength that comes with it.

He should watch the movie "The Purge". 12 hours a year for all Americans to exercise their murderous impulse. That'll REALLY put him on a paranoid tear!

Girl, if you "enjoy" self help, i'd say you would looove therapy. Good therapists are trained to be non-biased, that's the beauty about it. The most beautiful thing about it is - perspective. I still do a lot of self-help stuff, but I found I progress much speadier with the help of my therapist. If your fella is not willing to help you out with paying for it, would there be alternative ways to consider payment options? At the end of the day it's one of the best investments to my understanding.

I suppose maybe if you try to detach from his beliefs about the worlds unfortunate end, and try not be bothered if he cannot accept your understanding of the world? And if he tries to force his beliefs onto you, could you firmly and respectfully decline? I

You could always say "I live my life in love. I refuse to live in fear".

Thank you, I like that affirmation, koolman, and I do use a lot of them on a daily basis. It's really the key thing that gets me by are these self affirming thoughts.
I'm glad that you've found therapy helpful, dayDream, and I have had some brief experiences with it in the past. It is just so nice to unburden sometimes and the fact that the person doesn't know your background is helpful I think.
In all reality I think the truth is, he could benefit from therapy too, and possibly along with meds...but I'm doubtful this would ever happen. Maybe if we were to ever win the lottery and he could feel like he could focus on himself in this way and afford the help he needs.
Because like I said, he seems to want to live in these desperate situations. He quite enjoyed the movie The Purge, it was right up his alley!