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vm23
I would like to get some opinions of you all. I am new to this community and I'm hoping it helps me.
Would it be okay for your husband to talk to other females on the phone?
Would you approve of an out of town trip for your husband when your current financial situation is not stable? Although it would be a nice get away for him, for him to get away from stress. Would you go into your savings just a little for the trip? The savings is mainly for if anything were to happen and for a house in the next few weeks.
Could you all help me?
Would it be okay for your husband to talk to other females on the phone?
Would you approve of an out of town trip for your husband when your current financial situation is not stable? Although it would be a nice get away for him, for him to get away from stress. Would you go into your savings just a little for the trip? The savings is mainly for if anything were to happen and for a house in the next few weeks.
Could you all help me?
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Sounds like you don't trust him to be faithfull.
2. Is he going on his own. Savings should be for both of you. If both of you are gong, then this is very positive. Something may happen - you both may get bored, stressed out, fed up with being in a rut....a few short breaks make romance a possibility. Go for it.
2. depends on the trip. if it really is for him to just regroup than maybe yes...sometimes we need to get refreshed so that our love tank gets filled back up. sometimes it's worth the sacrifice if it will end up enriching your lives.
My X did that crap to me when he was talking to a certain female that for years was the torn in our rose garden.. But, didnt find out until after the fact that it was her he was talking too. I always thought the crap she said to me was made up..
One way to find out what he is doing and who he is talking to on line is to get net detective.
You better save all your money for when he leaves you...if you aren't smart enough to leave him first! I hope you are!
Tell him if he wants to go on a trip to get away from all the stress....get a JOB and use his own damn money!!!
He's going to go and meet that chic..if not a few chics.
Please kick him to the curb...he's making a fool out of you!!
Hugs, Brenda
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IF he was talking to these women whether you were around or not(to where it is not a factor), then no worries.
Now, for the vacation, by himself when you 2 are married, and talking to other women only when you can't hear...
He is lying to you. He is going to go on vacation to meet with another woman.
I have a feeling this man of yours is meeting one of the women he chats/texts to.
While snooping isn't good, I think you need to do some to find out more.
The out of town trip is probably a bad idea too, since there seems to be a trust issue.
And to take the trip ALONE to de-stress... meaning he's a better liar than you imagined. If he is sincere about fixing the problem; first he wouldn't lie about new woman friends, instead he would concentrate on getting a job rather than indulging on himself, and finally the most important of all, he should talk to you and share his problems rather than run away to lick his wounds. What can he solve by going away? Using your savings on top of that?
You need to have a real talk with him. Don't start by accusing. Tell him calmly you knew he was talking to women, whom he told you were guy friends. No victim or blame game here. Just set boundary for him -- who he can or cannot talk to. Talk about the important stuff - see if you can help him organize himself to get a job. This is MORE important than de-stressing and digging into your little savings. Focus on what will work for your relationship and the future.