If she dosn't like you she dosn't like you can't make somebody have feelings for you, It sucks but I would just let it go find somebody else let them be happy.

no thats not what i meant at all i meant ok if she really is my best friend how come she wasnt honest with me about why she didnt want to be with me from the beginning instead of coming up with excuses a true best friend wont lie to u regardless of how bad it might hurt

I can understand why you may be upset with her dishonesty. Maybe she didnt want to hurt your feelings. If you have known her for six years, has she ever dated anyone younger than her? Have you asked your cousin whats up

I think you need to ask yourself if you want to be her platonic friend regardless of who she dates.....what do you think?

Maybe there is a reason she is your best friend. Maybe she is not interested in you and doesn't want to date you. Is she dating your cousin or just hanging out with him? Just because I love my long haired, laid back hippy cowboy of a husband doesn't mean he is interchangable with any long haired, laid back hippy cowboy.

i told her how i felt about her before and at one point she was considering dating me but that was because all the guys she were seeing found out she was seeing other guys and wanted nothing to do with her. as long as ive known her shes never just had 1 boyfriend she keeps multiple guys around so if one doesnt work out theirs others in place. and her and my cousin say they are only hanging out but when you walk in on them having sex in your bedroom it makes you question whether they are together or not. and im 20 shes 24 the last two guys she dated were 19 and 20. so much for not dating younger guys right

I think you answered your own question as to why she won't date you when you said that she dates more then 1 guy all the time... maybe she is keeping from dating you because she knows it would lead to trouble seeing how she has a problem being with 1?

the truth of the matter is you can't make her want to date you, regardless of how much you want to date her. You just can't force a person to like/love you "in that way". Whatever her explanations/actions/excuses are, she just doesn't want to date you. She had made that pretty clear. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you will be able to move on and find happiness.

It sounds like to me that she isn't ready to be in any kind of serious relationship with anyone by the way you described her behavior. I think even if you were to get involved with you would end up getting hurt. Also if she were truly interested in having a romantic relationship with you in the 6 years you have known her it would have happened by now.

I know it is hard when you have feelings for someone and they don't return or have the same kind of feelings for you but if you continue to take what you feel are signs that she is interested in you in a romantic way I think you will be missing out on meeting someone who really would like to start a relationship with you.

As for ending your friendship with her that will have to be up to you. Perhaps for right now it would be better if you limited the amount of time you spend with her and focus on hanging out with other people. If she dates your cousin so be it. That is something that is out of your control and you getting angry about it is not going to change her mind about dating you. I don't want to come off sounding harsh but let it go kiddo. She is just not into you the way you want her to be.

I would also suggest you consider talking to a counselor about your feelings as this might help you a great deal in being able to move on with your life. Wishing you the very best:)

I agree with the advice you got from katiebell68. I wish you luck, jabu

no im not mad about her dating my cousin im mad about the fact that she told me a bunch of bs and lies about why she wouldnt date me.. and its the fact that lately all she thinks that im good for is she will say she wants to hang out but in the long run i end up driving her around to do her errands and then my cousin and her have the nerve to start having sex in my bedroom... i havent even had sex in their yet so i know no one else is

"she will say she wants to hang out but in the long run i end up driving her around to do her errands"

Sounds like she is stringing you along and using you.

i agree, and why would you want to date her if your cousin already has?

Basically the"your too young thing" was just a cover up ...kinda like "your not my type". but she didnt want to hurt your feelings for whatever reason...