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addicted?

sarahsarah
sarahsarah
ive realized i am an addict! not to drugs but to my husband were going thru a rough patch right now and hes so stressed about other stuff im getting no work on our relationship from his end. and the screwed up part is i should be pissed and tell him to hit the road but i am addicted to him! how can i break the addiction? he wont do anything to make this better he thinks i messed it up so he can sit back and watch me humilate myself! what should i do!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am in the same boat as you right now. This is what I have decided to do.
He can't leave the house cus he has nowwhere to do. So I have said no sex cause it is making it harder for me to leave u. But I know for a fact that this isn't the future I want anymore.
So basically what I am trying to say is dont let the addiction get to u if u know this isnt the life u want. set the rules...like not having sex...just being friends....
but at the end of the day its ur decision and ures only
deleted_user
deleted_user
Like any addiction the hard part is taking steps that can help you overcome your co-dependency on that particular person or thing. It certainly won't happen over night but I think that by talking to people who can support you and doing things that interest you on your own are a few good ways to start breaking the ties. To me if you are addicted to anything it indicates you are missing out on a lot of things that life has to offer and I think the big culprit is dealing with the fear of not having your addiction near you and facing life without it.

In saying that I think that is where it takes a lot of hard work on your part to become free again, mind you it is not impossible just hard to do. A majority try to do to much at once and then get so overwhelmed they resort right back into the same old rut that is why I think taking it one day and one step at a time is more beneficial. Look for people and things that can help you start to believe in yourself again as you had that feeling once before and you can get it back again and once you do I believe those addictions are much easier to deal with. Best wishes to you:)