Sorry to break it to you, but your friends are right - it just takes TIME. When you meet a guy, just don't rush things. It's the only way to know his intentions. Most guys who just want sex aren't going to wait THAT long and invest too much time in order to get it. If the guy always wants to be alone with you, always wants you over at his place, etc., those are signs that he wants to get physical pretty fast. He should be happy to spend some time walking and our talking with you and getting to know you. And just because YOU are not experienced in reading signals yet, HE should be able to - he should be able to tell if it's okay to put a move on you or not and he should respect your signals. I hope this helps!

I believe that the most important thing in finding a happy relationship is to NOT approach every person that comes your way with a suspicion that he is lying and trying to just use you for sex.
There is no guarantee that (even if you find someone who really does want a relationship and is not lying ) your relationship will be happy and calm, because even if people love each other and are together there are personality conflicts and sometimes you can end up being hurt.
Try to approach it with a calm knowledge that when it comes to matters of the heart, it is just a risky and turbulent path but to me the thrill of when it is good is worth taking a risk of being shot down and be miserable.

If you want to learn to read people, it is difficult yet very simple.
When you are trying to read a guy, just pay attention to his actions rather than what he says. People in general can say anything and eveything, but actions really matter.
For example - if a guy says " I'll call you tomorrow morning" and doesn't call till 5 pm without any explanation, he is really not that interested in you. When a man is really excited about you, he will text you or e-mail you or find any other way to keep in contact with you day and night.
If you see that a man is dedicating a lot of his efforts to other people - his children, parents, siblings, friends, chances are his actions of care towards you will likely remain consistent, and are not just put out as " bait" to get something from you. ( btw women do it too. Not just men)
Also, IMO, the fact that you are not experienced in sex department is also in your favor. People who are looking just to get laid usually want someone who is experienced. They don't want to be bothered with teaching someone how to do things just to have a one night stand.
Good luck and I hope things go well for you.

Oh and btw... Idk where you live, but from what I see in the US, I think that men lie sometimes about sex because for many years religious upbringing made sex a complete forbidden zone for both genders. As a result, people were not talking about sex. Then in the 60s everything exploded and then kind of settled down to people being uptight about sex again, maybe not to the same degree, but still.
In the past, women in the media were always portrayed as whores if they liked sex and always were expected to play hard to get and men were suppose to chase her and she was suppose to reject them .
I feel like men were forced to lie, just to get to the woman.
Many people were raised by god fearing generation where a woman was suppose to be asexual. There is a reason why they slept in separate beds in the old times.

yeah, what Aronia said. The "self fulfilling prophecy" thing. If you approach every man with that prejudgement, you will drive away the ones that aren't like that. Or at least a decent portion of them.

Go in slow, get to know them, but try to keep an open mind.

Confidence is your tool while dating. It keeps you putting your best "self" forward and it will keep you defending boundaries if need be. Try telling yourself three good things about yourself every morning when you wake up.

Thanks for the responses! :) I feel like I could not get enough responses/input on this complicated/difficult subject!! lol. Thanks Dave, I think it is important for me not to make prejudgements..I think we all do that sometimes when we're in a mood, lol (like feeling spurned romantically, so we feel distrustful :p). I'll have to be careful about that one. However, on the contrary, I generally tend to be naive and overly trusting. I often don't see their (otherwise somewhat, although certainly not very clear at ALL) intentions until I have already developed an attachment, and that is PAINFUL to wake up to it at that point. In my defense, I think I am learning quickly. I suppose no matter how you feel, as we must with everybody despite any possible types of presuppositions about the kind of person they mat be, you really have to clear the slate with each new individual person, and give them the chance to be that guy. Just gets frustrating going thru so many rude disappointments =/

My sister gave my some good advice after my first heartbeaking beakup. She told me that with each relationship, I would start going through them faster. I didn't quite get what she meant at first, but now I do and she was completely right. My first relationship lasted 5 years, and the guy was a jerk, but I was new to relationships and hadn't yet learned what I wanted and what I didn't, what was good, and what was not ok. After that first relationship, I started recognizing much fast if I guu was the kind of man I was looking for, and after surviving that first heartbeak, I was much less afraid to walk away from the ones that wernt right for me. I also started seeing the indicators that a guy was right for me much more clearly too. All that experience led me to my current boyfriend, who is pretty damn amazing. :-)

All I can say is you have to just roll up your sleeves and get to it. Dont be afriad of things not working out, cuz that's going to happen sometimes, try to pay attention to the dynamic of the relationship and be honest with your self about if that is what you want. And don't undervalue yourself. You need to be the one to set the rules about how you should be treated, and make sure whoever you're with follows them. If you let anyone else set those rules for you, I promise the bar will never be as high as it should be.

Thanks Scarlet, that's soo helpful!! :) :) (So happy for your success with it, btw ;)

It's all fickle. Just take ti day by day, and get the most enjoyment out of it that you can, today.