Practice saying this to yourself: ‘I don’t know’
It’s very freeing. It takes practice to not need to be right

This is about control and the people who are most controlling are those who really feel out of control.... Big hug... xo

Take a 4 second breath in while some one is talking, slowly let it out.

Take a second before responding "Think Is This My Business"
"Did This Person Ask For Advice/Do Something For Them"

Try thinking about 'need for approval/acceptance".

I think wanting to fix someone else is two things: codependence and focusing on them so we don't have to fix ourselves. A way to make friends is to ask them about their lives and then listen. Force yourself to practice listening and putting other people first by listening. My husband talks and talks and doesn't listen and now his vision and his hearing are low so he can't see the faces of the people who are bored by him. Sometimes I remind myself I am hogging the conversation and boring people. I ate lunch with a several friends a while ago. We were all finished eating and finished talking and one lady just ran on and on with her story and she talked about 10 minutes while the rest of us sat there with our purses in hand. When I do that kind of run-on talking, I ask myself am I not having enough conversation with real folks so then I am desperate to talk? I wonder if journaling our feelings every evening would help give us an escape valve so we don't do the run-on stuff? This is what I have been wondering about myself. You are in good company here. Welcome to this forum.

Maybe some of these people trigger anxiety in you, and why you feel you talk to other people about it? Versus letting go?

Goldielocks5 I talk to other people about it because I try to solve problems... Which isn't serving me really because I need to just worry about my own problems.. So yeah letting go is a good idea. Thank you Suncloud and hasty and finally awake now! Keeping things simple for myself is what it's going to have to be