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my boyfriend really taught me something about love today.
his birthday is tomorrow. i got him a really nice sport jacket that was supposed to be for his birthday, but i gave it to him early. well now i'm out of money. and i really wanted to give him something to open on his actual birthday.
so i finally thought of this cute idea of something to make (can't say what it is because he will probably read this!) but it's something we talked about before we even started dating and now have a joke about it. i was pretty excited, and started it today.
i told one of my friends what i'm making and she was like....okay....
and i was like IT'S SO COOL. and she was like, i don't know if he'll like it. so i started freaking out because i didn't know what else to do. so he gets here, and i see this huge pile of dishes i have to do, then i needed to figure out something for dinner, go to the grocery store, bake muffins, and hopefully find some time in there to shower and have sex. so i start crying right when he walks in saying he won't like the present and there's no time for life.(i am a basket case if you haven't figured that out yet, ;D)
so he just hugs me and gave me this speech on how it doesn't matter what it is or what it cost. i spent time on it that could have been spent doing other things, and not even because i had to, just because i wanted to make him happy. so then somehow i managed to shower, get a bunch of dishes done, and we had sex. then he and my dad took me out for sushi, which is a special treat for me because really the only people i know who like sushi are me and my dad. so i didn't have to worry about what to eat, and then made it to the store, and managed to put all the food away, and my loving boyfriend started doing the dishes. i didn't even ask him to, he just did it. he said it was because i worked hard today, even though he's the one who woke up at 5 am and worked for 8 hours.
it was a really special day to me, even though it was just a day of baking, cleaning, and sewing. nothing really exciting, but he really taught me something today. i'm one of those people who wants to go above and beyond in everything, especially with making my loved ones happy. but what he showed me today is i don't have to go above and beyond. i just have to do my best. and if my best one day is only finding time to do half the stuff on my list, he appreciates me for doing half the stuff on my list.
that's what i think love is. appreciating each other for trying, caring enough to help each other out, wanting to be perfect for each other even if it's impossible. yes, fights and frustration come along with it. but after every fight, we appreciate each other a little more because no matter how angry we are, our anger never diminishes our love for each other, which makes it easy to forgive.
sorry for the long post, i'm just amazed by the power of love!
i hope that you all are feeling as great as i am today!
his birthday is tomorrow. i got him a really nice sport jacket that was supposed to be for his birthday, but i gave it to him early. well now i'm out of money. and i really wanted to give him something to open on his actual birthday.
so i finally thought of this cute idea of something to make (can't say what it is because he will probably read this!) but it's something we talked about before we even started dating and now have a joke about it. i was pretty excited, and started it today.
i told one of my friends what i'm making and she was like....okay....
and i was like IT'S SO COOL. and she was like, i don't know if he'll like it. so i started freaking out because i didn't know what else to do. so he gets here, and i see this huge pile of dishes i have to do, then i needed to figure out something for dinner, go to the grocery store, bake muffins, and hopefully find some time in there to shower and have sex. so i start crying right when he walks in saying he won't like the present and there's no time for life.(i am a basket case if you haven't figured that out yet, ;D)
so he just hugs me and gave me this speech on how it doesn't matter what it is or what it cost. i spent time on it that could have been spent doing other things, and not even because i had to, just because i wanted to make him happy. so then somehow i managed to shower, get a bunch of dishes done, and we had sex. then he and my dad took me out for sushi, which is a special treat for me because really the only people i know who like sushi are me and my dad. so i didn't have to worry about what to eat, and then made it to the store, and managed to put all the food away, and my loving boyfriend started doing the dishes. i didn't even ask him to, he just did it. he said it was because i worked hard today, even though he's the one who woke up at 5 am and worked for 8 hours.
it was a really special day to me, even though it was just a day of baking, cleaning, and sewing. nothing really exciting, but he really taught me something today. i'm one of those people who wants to go above and beyond in everything, especially with making my loved ones happy. but what he showed me today is i don't have to go above and beyond. i just have to do my best. and if my best one day is only finding time to do half the stuff on my list, he appreciates me for doing half the stuff on my list.
that's what i think love is. appreciating each other for trying, caring enough to help each other out, wanting to be perfect for each other even if it's impossible. yes, fights and frustration come along with it. but after every fight, we appreciate each other a little more because no matter how angry we are, our anger never diminishes our love for each other, which makes it easy to forgive.
sorry for the long post, i'm just amazed by the power of love!
i hope that you all are feeling as great as i am today!
There's no such thing as 50/50 in a good relationship - if you both don't give at least 100%, it probably won't last. Congrats to you both!
Glad you feel loved and thanks for sharing
it really is about the everyday things. and appreciating the good things instead of staying angry for the bad things.
and thanks koolman! it's both our first time in a healthy relationship,and it really is beautiful. and we always work on being better together too.