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Found this both amusing and disturbing.
Beware: Some of the tunes that you think are romantic are actually pretty sour once you listen to the words. Allow us to present the evidence.
Not-So-Sweet Song #1: "The One I Love," REM
It's hard to believe people dedicate this as if it were a love song, but let's just set the record straight: It's not. Hello, the guy in the song is addressing "the one I left behind." Why? Because she was nothing to him but "a simple prop to occupy my time." And, adding insult to injury, "another prop has occupied my time." He's moving on! The only thing that could make this song meaner would be if Michael Stipe sang, "Ready, aim?" before wailing out "Fire!" during the chorus.
Not-So-Sweet Song #2: "Every Breath You Take," The Police
When Sting sings, "Can't you see? You belong to me," it can be tempting to think "Aw, he must really like this girl." Sorry to break it to you, but "like" isn't exactly what comes to mind if you listen to the rest of the lyrics. Take what Sting's "watching," for instance: "every vow you break, every smile you fake." Last we checked, calling a girl a cold-hearted two-timer isn't exactly a compliment. Then, take how he croons "I'll be watching you" over... and over... and over. Restraining order, anyone?
Not-So-Sweet Song #3: "With or Without You," U2
Sure, the opening strains are beautiful. But the lyrics make us strain to understand why Bono's with this girl: "On a bed of nails she makes me wait;" "My hands are tied, my body bruised, she's got me with nothing to win and nothing left to lose." Frankly, we don't blame Bono for wailing "I can't live with or without you." But does this tortured sentiment and masochistic imagery a love song make? Try a love-hate song.
Not-So-Sweet Song #4: "Something," The Beatles
Many people think this is a love song (rumor has it that it was one of Frank Sinatra's favorites), but let's take a good look at the lyrics: "You're asking me, will my love grow? I don't know! I don't know! You stick around and it may show. I don't know! I don't know!" Sounds like the gal he's seeing is gunning for a commitmentand the guy's doing is best to weasel out of it. Not exactly romantic, is it?
Not-So-Sweet Song #5: "The Best of My Love," The Eagles
The chorus sounds like a boyfriend crooning about how "here in my heart, I give you the best of my love." Unfortunately, the rest of the song details fights ("We try to talk it over, but the words come out too rough"), heavy drinking ("Look at the way that we live! Wastin' our time, on cheap talk and wine"), and a total inability to connect ("Every mornin', I wake up and worry, what's gonna happen today. You see it your way, and I see it mine, but we both see it slippin' away"). Sounds like the "best of my love" ain't good enough.
"Could you be the one I'm thinking of? Could you be the girl I really love?" sounds like a guy reveling in his joy at finding such a fabulous girlfriend. But the next couple of lines"All the people tell me so... but what do all the people know?"sounds like he's skeptical of the rave reviews his girl is getting. We're skeptical, too, especially when we hear the lines, "Do you think I really care for you? Is it just another game that you and I pretend to play?" That's hardly a head-over-heels declaration of love in our book.
Not-So-Sweet Song #7: "The Reason," Hoobastank
This cute little ditty is playing on cell phones across the nation, and some of the lyrics do sound pretty sweet: "I've found a reason for me to change who I used to be! A reason to start over newand the reason is YOU!" That's great, Hooba. But what's going on in the rest of the words? Let's see: "I'm sorry that I hurt youit's something I must live with every day;" "All the pain I put you through, I wish that I could take it all away and be the one who catches all your tears" and, this is all stuff that "I have to say before I go." Oh, we get it now: He's leaving, and her consolation prize is knowing she made him a better person for the next girl who comes along? You're welcome, ya jerk.
Amy Keyishian writes for various magazines, including Stuff and Marie Claire. She has an intense personal relationship with her iPod, and her favorite love song is Rubber Duckie.
Kool would like to add: Waiting 'Til the End of Time (so I can end my time with you) by Meat Loaf
Beware: Some of the tunes that you think are romantic are actually pretty sour once you listen to the words. Allow us to present the evidence.
Not-So-Sweet Song #1: "The One I Love," REM
It's hard to believe people dedicate this as if it were a love song, but let's just set the record straight: It's not. Hello, the guy in the song is addressing "the one I left behind." Why? Because she was nothing to him but "a simple prop to occupy my time." And, adding insult to injury, "another prop has occupied my time." He's moving on! The only thing that could make this song meaner would be if Michael Stipe sang, "Ready, aim?" before wailing out "Fire!" during the chorus.
Not-So-Sweet Song #2: "Every Breath You Take," The Police
When Sting sings, "Can't you see? You belong to me," it can be tempting to think "Aw, he must really like this girl." Sorry to break it to you, but "like" isn't exactly what comes to mind if you listen to the rest of the lyrics. Take what Sting's "watching," for instance: "every vow you break, every smile you fake." Last we checked, calling a girl a cold-hearted two-timer isn't exactly a compliment. Then, take how he croons "I'll be watching you" over... and over... and over. Restraining order, anyone?
Not-So-Sweet Song #3: "With or Without You," U2
Sure, the opening strains are beautiful. But the lyrics make us strain to understand why Bono's with this girl: "On a bed of nails she makes me wait;" "My hands are tied, my body bruised, she's got me with nothing to win and nothing left to lose." Frankly, we don't blame Bono for wailing "I can't live with or without you." But does this tortured sentiment and masochistic imagery a love song make? Try a love-hate song.
Not-So-Sweet Song #4: "Something," The Beatles
Many people think this is a love song (rumor has it that it was one of Frank Sinatra's favorites), but let's take a good look at the lyrics: "You're asking me, will my love grow? I don't know! I don't know! You stick around and it may show. I don't know! I don't know!" Sounds like the gal he's seeing is gunning for a commitmentand the guy's doing is best to weasel out of it. Not exactly romantic, is it?
Not-So-Sweet Song #5: "The Best of My Love," The Eagles
The chorus sounds like a boyfriend crooning about how "here in my heart, I give you the best of my love." Unfortunately, the rest of the song details fights ("We try to talk it over, but the words come out too rough"), heavy drinking ("Look at the way that we live! Wastin' our time, on cheap talk and wine"), and a total inability to connect ("Every mornin', I wake up and worry, what's gonna happen today. You see it your way, and I see it mine, but we both see it slippin' away"). Sounds like the "best of my love" ain't good enough.
"Could you be the one I'm thinking of? Could you be the girl I really love?" sounds like a guy reveling in his joy at finding such a fabulous girlfriend. But the next couple of lines"All the people tell me so... but what do all the people know?"sounds like he's skeptical of the rave reviews his girl is getting. We're skeptical, too, especially when we hear the lines, "Do you think I really care for you? Is it just another game that you and I pretend to play?" That's hardly a head-over-heels declaration of love in our book.
Not-So-Sweet Song #7: "The Reason," Hoobastank
This cute little ditty is playing on cell phones across the nation, and some of the lyrics do sound pretty sweet: "I've found a reason for me to change who I used to be! A reason to start over newand the reason is YOU!" That's great, Hooba. But what's going on in the rest of the words? Let's see: "I'm sorry that I hurt youit's something I must live with every day;" "All the pain I put you through, I wish that I could take it all away and be the one who catches all your tears" and, this is all stuff that "I have to say before I go." Oh, we get it now: He's leaving, and her consolation prize is knowing she made him a better person for the next girl who comes along? You're welcome, ya jerk.
Amy Keyishian writes for various magazines, including Stuff and Marie Claire. She has an intense personal relationship with her iPod, and her favorite love song is Rubber Duckie.
Kool would like to add: Waiting 'Til the End of Time (so I can end my time with you) by Meat Loaf
Anyway, who needs love songs? I propose more artists write songs that you can jam to after someone breaks your heart and feel better about yourself. My short list includes:
You Oughta Know- Alanis Morissette
Call me when you're sober- Evanescence
Before he cheats- Carrie Underwood
Hate Me- Blue October
If I was really feeling like crying I would always listen to Jewel's "You were meant for me", Michelle Branch "Goodbye to you", or Dido's "White Flag". Hey, sometimes crying is the best medicine.
Thanks for sharing Kool, just goes to show that "love" isn't always what it seems on the surface!
Also, I Will Survive
Yeah, sometimes love is love/HATE.
Haha scorned women...tis true, tis true. Its all good, better to discover that your "love" is more "hate" sooner than later, right? Move onto bigger and better things...hopefully lol.
"He wondered how she'd take it when he said goodbye.
Thought she might do some cryin': lose some sleep at night.
But he had no idea, when he hit the road,
That without him in her life, she'd let herself go.
Let herself go on a singles cruise,
To Vegas once, then to Honolulu.
Let herself go to New York City:
A week at the Spa; came back knocked-out pretty.
When he said he didn't love her no more,
She let herself go. . ."
great job listening to the words and gettin the meanings. not enough people do that now days. my husband loves The Reason by hooba. so maybe i should have him listen to the lyrics now. lol
"I respect you, you respect me,
We communicate so well...
It's amazing how I love you your mom,
And you love mine as well....
When we disagree, we talk it out, and find a way that's fair
Our sex is great, and I can't wait, to help you comb you hair...."
By this point, the audience has either fallen asleep or asked for their money back. :)
Give me "Love Stinks" any day.
Tom Petty Dont come around here no more!
I hate myself for loving you - joan jett..
i could go on for days and days about it..
But most love songs are never what they appear on the outside..
just think of all the people that got married to Billy Idols White Wedding {eddie van hallen} stupid, its an anti wedding song duh!! lol..
Yeah, stormy romances sell CDs.
Eddie Van Halen (with Valerie Bertinelli). We all know how that went: She cheated on him (with I heard VH lead singer David Lee Roth), then he cheated on her (with some groupie). Guess they're both sittin' pretty financially now though (Val's cashed in great with those Jenny Craig ads and Eddie is rockin' on), so they're crying all the way to the bank...!