Well you need to take a good hard look at yourself and see why you PICKED them! We all have to find the fault in ourselves too! I have been used and abused many times myself, but if I would not have allowed it in the past then it wouldnt have happened. I believe it all stems from low self worth and self esteem.

Best of luck in the future !

You may be missing the signs of a problem right from the start...

If you keep finding yourself with women who cheat and treat you badly, the one common denominator is you. Look inside yourself and figure out why.

Are you ignoring red flags, settling for less than what you want, not setting boundaries for yourself or sticking to them?

If you've been picking ridiculously hot, sexy, insatiable vixens who have lots of options in the form of other men chasing them, and them being too weak, loose, lacking depth, self-respect and a low threshold for boredom, yes, you had something to do with the selection process and got what you "paid" for. There's no kind way to say this: You can't make a whore into a housewife. She'll be bored shitless.

A woman can be good-looking, like sex and still have some depth, morality, class and self-respect that prevents her from screwing around. Unfortunately, I, like you, mysteryman, don't know any locally.

In other words, maybe you tried to tame and domesticate wild women, cheetas, who didn't want to be tamed or domesti ated, found that boring, wanted the neverending excitement adrenalin ride and resented you for trying to tame and domesticate them-!

You've got to be honest with yourself and a woman about what kind of EMOTIONAL chemistry you're looking for. Sex is great, for awhile...and then you're stuck with each other's personalities. Humor and warmth are extremely important to this guy.

What are you adding or subtracting from the relationship? Because people do not cheat when all of their emotional needs are being met. http://marriagebuilders.com

In my relationship, I was "busy" in school so I didn't give him the attention he needed. I was unavailable to join him in his activities. Doesn't give him an excuse, it's just a fact. If you are unaware of your needs how can you expect someone to meet them.

The woman I have dated and my ex-wife, are controlling ,maniplutive,cheaters and liar's lol. I think I just settle for anybody, instead of picking a good woman.

Mysteryman - why do you think you just settle? don't you think you deserve someone that does not control/manipulate/cheat on/lie to you?

Maybe you want to re-think how you meet these women and also what traits they had in common so if you recognize them, you can run the other way when you see them in new women you meet.

I think I settle because, I think I'm not good enough to get a healthy woman.

We are responsible for almost everything that happens to us. If you are faithful to this belief, you'll take every precaution to make sure that trouble doesn't repeat itself.

If you believe that things just happen to you, without any effort on your part, they will most likely continue to repeat themselves.

I wish you well.

You are one who is ultimately responsible to the choices you make. So if you continually pick the wrong woman, yes, the fault lies with you.