I'm sorry to hear that man. Don't let her belittle you, don't show her your anger, don't let her take your pride from you. Let the guy she was sleeping with take care of her.

"Not man enough"?

What in the f*ck does that actually mean?

Count your blessings, buddy, and be glad the kid isn't yours, and she is your ex.

What a douche thing for her to do.

She's an ex and sounds like she's looking to create a reaction.

I know it's hard, but at the end of the day? You can't do anything to change it now. So let it go. It doesn't say anything about you. She made a choice, a decision, and it was before. Now is now.

She is trying everything to hurt me

Ugh, she's an ex for a reason.

No contact, boo.

NONE.

Don't reply to emails, texts, etc...or whatever else the kids are into nowadays.

God, this has really hit a nerve with me lolol!

Thank god I don't have kids with her.

Exactly.

Let baby daddy or new boyfriend or whomever she's shacking up with pay the bills now.

Or maybe she could get a job and take care of herself like a grown up, but it's not your problem any more ;)

You are a really nice, decent guy.. You didnt do anything wrong. She is just an asshole.

How awful! Sorry this woman is being willfully hurtful. When someone treats us badly is says a LOT more about Them than it does us. She sounds like a miserable person and it's probably very fortunate that you're now free of her. TTMI is right, no contact is the way to go!

Cheaters who blame their spouses are the worse in my book. No matter the circumstances, we have choices, if you were "not man enough" (whatever that means) she could have ended it instead of cheating, just be glad she's out of your life now, you deserve so much better than that.

What a terrible thing to do to you. It's possible that it's a lie too, just trying to hurt you is all she's doing. Must be she's been having a hard time without you and if she can't have you then she can at least try to make you feel miserable like she is.

What a bitch!

I am so sorry mystery man.

I would stop all contact with her.

Boy, is that a game. It's very controlling. If she can get a reaction out of you, she has full control. The best thing a person can do is walk away from such non-sense. That is really all it is, non-sense.

I am sorry you had to go through that, geez, three years after the fact, couldn't she have kept that to herself? Sure, maybe she felt the need to unload her conscious, which I could maybe believe, if she hadn't dumped on top of that, that it was your fault. My guess, she's in a pissy mood, probably guy related, my ex-h used to do the flame throwing thing, every time he'd get in a fight with one of his girlfriends. If I didn't have three kids with him, I'd have no problem cutting him off for life... blegh.

Oh yeah, shes definitely trying to get a reaction out of you. Dont give her any power by feeding into it, because at the end of the day, it doesnt matter anymore.
Who even knows if shes telling the truth anyway?
What a jerk.