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Lonely

mysteryman73
mysteryman73
If you're lonely, should you work on yourself first, or try to date. It seem's lie a vicious cycle. You're are lonely because you don't have someone, but you turn people off, because you come off as desparate.
mysteryman73
mysteryman73
Like not lie
soulsearcher83
soulsearcher83
I think it's better to work on yourself to get out of the slump of being lonely. By cultivating new experiences and friendships, you attract the type of person you want and increase your chances of meeting someone with a shared interest. It's something I've been contemplating lately myself. I personally decided to go on a dating hiatus because there are things I want to work on within myself in order to attract the right person at a later time.
freakchick3175
freakchick3175
#2 :-)
MsTeriLyn
MsTeriLyn
Work on yourself, because if you like your own company loneliness is almost non-existent. Surround yourself with friends. Quit looking for a lover. Volunteer. Take Classes. Learn to cook. Go to the gym. Stay busy. Like what you see in the mirror and watch that energy drive you out into world to find all sorts of adventures.

There is SO much more to life than finding a lover. The work to maintain the relationship has to come from the experience of maintaining your own self love.
mysteryman73
mysteryman73
Thanks everyone