If you figure it out let me know! I think that we have to be choosy, we have to find someone we are compatible with on alot of levels. You won't know if you're being too choosy until you give things a try.

In my opinion whenever you take the steps to get involved with someone there are always going to be things about that person that you are not going to like such as certain habits. It will have to be up to you to decide what you can and can't tolerate. In most cased if you really are in love with a person I feel a lot of things can be tolerated and compromises can be made so that both of you will be happy. Remember your partner may also find things about you that they are picky about and do not like.

I think the most important thing is would be that you are happy together as a couple and can clearly communicate, respect each other and be there for each other when it counts. Don't settle for anything less then that. Being picky is certainly alright, however if it begins to dominate your life in every aspect you most likely will never settle down with anyone. It all depends on what you as an individual can live with. Sometimes you have to give in a bit to see greater rewards down the road. Best you can do is take chances with people and see how it goes.

Anyway focus on what is really important to you in a relationship as well as things that you feel you do not like and find out if these are things you might be able to live with or not. Wishing you the very best in your pursuit of happiness and finding the right now:)

That makes alot of since

Ive learnt that being picky helps you not wate your life
I was with my ex 6 years and always suspected cheating...in the 6th year i got proof but should have ended it way before

Always make what you want a priority and know you deserve the best

Being irritated with someone because they throw their socks on the floor while getting undressed is an example of picky.
Being irritated because they are never on time is an example of someone's personality not meeting your standards.

To add to the posts here..

I've been asked this question by people from friends to my own Mother who was dating again after a 22 year marriage.

I found the simplest reply was, "Once you get past the endorphin rush of the new love possibility, take time to see the person for all that they are. If you find you still have a healthy love for the person, clearly seeing their faults and are able to adjust to their faults,.....carry on! You have just fell in love with a whole human being, and this is the same love that you deserve in return."

I've seen this issue before with several of my daughters friends who were in their 30's. One lovely gal was very distressed because her boyfriend of many years could not make up his mind to commit to marriage. She was white collar and he was blue collar and they did separate for periods of time because of the tug of war. eventually they matured and just got married at the age of 40, first marriage for both. they really cared about each other and had almost opposite personalities but with time they came to realize that their high regard and respect for each other prevailed. she gave up pressuring him and had to stuff it (hurt feelings about him not "coming around") and once she truly let go of the outcome and decided she wanted him with marriage or without things changed. they are a super couple but it was a bumpy road because of fears and insecurities on both parts. Most important things is RESPECT AND ADMIRATION - if that falters its over.

Don't settle.

But don't go into a date with a checklist in your head, looking for the perfect person for you. Love doesn't care what we think we want. Get to know your date. Ask yourself, "would I like to spend more time with this person?" There will be aggravations. Can you put up with them? Most other questions are basically superficial and ultimately irrelevant. Don't think too much, just see if you enjoy yourself.

For me, it's about getting on an overall "tone" or "flow" that I find agreeable. That helps me not sweat the little stuff.