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How Do You

reallove
reallove
How do you start a healthy relationship, when because of many years of pain as a result of lies contributing to the death,of a child of yours?
You're afraid to put that much trust in anyone.
My particular pain is from identifying my only sons dead body with blood all over his face at barely sixteen years of age.
Because of lies told by the mother of my children.
Aronia
Aronia
Death of your own child is unlike any other death. Some couples break up just for that reason.
I would imagine it would be more comforting to me to connect to someone who understands what it is like, if I ever experienced a loss like that.
I'm so sorry for your pain. Hope you will find someone special.
deleted_user
deleted_user
D: do not be hard on yourself. I think first and foremost you need councilling for a few years before you even think of going back into a relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think the best thing you can do, is to get involved in groups where everyone enjoys a mutual activity. That way no stress being alone with another person. From there, get to know each person - male or female as a friend. Slowly over time the relationship will deepen.

You've been in counseling for a while already, I think. But, you may need to stay with a specific counselor on and off. Heck that isn't bad. You'll have a person to bounce things off of if you get overwhelmed.

Oooo and keep writing. you seem to be a sweet man. I'm sorry that you've been through so much.
reallove
reallove
To those of you who commented on my post,thank you very much,Whispering,you said youwere soory that I had been through so much,sweetie in some ways so am I,but had it not been for those things,I would not be the sweet man that you seem to think I am.
As for that I can't take any credit for it at all.
Because when I was praying for death myself after seeing my son the way I did,two messages came to me.
The first told me to take a long hard look at myself,that I wouldn't like all that I saw,well that was so very true,I didn't so that morning I made a vow to The Lord,that from that day forward I would strive towards positive change.
I don't always succeed but I do try.
The second message that came to me was one word,that word was W-R-I-T-E,so that is what I do,I write as a means to cope.
That is the very best therapy I have found as yet
So you see honey I can't take credit for it.
God knows I want to be able to trust,I have been alone for over fifteen years,and I just don't know how much more of that I can take.
I think I'll take your advice,join a group.