For me, I guess it's all about balance. If I eat well for a while, I don't see it as a problem to eat out once in a while. If I don't treat myself I find that I fall off the wagon completely! My family tends to eat what I make for them, so I guess they'd rather eat healthy than cook for themselves LOL
It helps if I cook a clean meal and then they can put the typical salad dressing on items that they have trouble eating plain. I think that's an OK trade-off. Or I'll let my son put sprinkle cheese on his steamed veggies. I figure that's better than no veggies at all.

Sometimes I'll send my family out to eat without me. And that's OK too. It's nice to have a quite moment.

Hope it gets easier for you.

I wonder if you have swung from one extreme to another? It's never healthy in any form to be so rigid. Flexibility and adaptability may help you reduce some of the eating disturbances in your family.

These days, more and more eating establishments are offering healthier items on their menus. You should be able to find several places that offer a decent salad or some other healthy items. Taking your own food to a restaurant is not really something that many places would allow and it really strikes me as cheap and tacky.

I think you may have better luck if you offer some compromises. You will go to some places that offer a couple reasonably healthy items, and they will go to some places you choose which offer MOSTLY healthy items.

If you refuse to eat at their places, and they refuse to eat at yours, you are at a stalemate.

I too spend a great deal of time at the gym, love the weights, and work with a trainer a couple times each week. I have revamped my eating but still am able to go to some lunches with people at work by asking that they select a place that will offer a couple healthy items. They are fine with it, and I am OK to eat some sort of salad with chicken or fish. One day with a bit of less clean and non organic ingredients don't kill me.

Either find an acceptable compromise or learn to deal with the resentment that will continue.

I really couldn't put it any better than the above posters. I tell my husband not to bother even coming home with fruits and veggies that are not organic anymore because I won't eat them. I feel it worth the couple of extra bucks to buy decent food, but I will attempt to find a balance for myself and not be so rigid, as JustBlue said. I don't think that's very healthy either.

Just find your own balance.

I also buy organic foods, but i have recently cut down on the costs because I was told by my nutritionist client that there are some foods that are ok to buy non-organic..like bananas, oranges, grapefruit, melons, and avocados. pretty much anything that you are not going to use the peel on. now if you're cooking with lemon zest then only use organic.
Most restaurants offer something that one can eat these days.

I try to eat as much organic produce as possible. It's almost as if i feel that non-organic food is contaminable....which it really is with pesticides and stuff...

but i need to live as well...so if i go to a restaurant i feel the same as you....but i just try my best to enjoy the food and my time out.

I find it hard to eat out with other people too. But i love to go so sometimes I end up ordering what looks best on the menu, or rather, what looks the least bad, and sometimes I just can't even eat it.

So my solution is this. First, I always know what restaurants I could eat at. I do my research in advance. The best ones for me are Indian and Thai. They do not have breaded items and especially the Indian ones serve lots of veggies. Vietnamese serve that Pho which can be good, but you have to call ahead about the MSG.

Second, I eat ahead of time so I ma not too hungry at the place, then go out and nibble on something. I get the companionship but don't have to eat the inedible.

Food can be such a loaded issue. Try not to make it a wedge between you and your family.