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Article for the CS

Group FounderCole50
Cole50
Gabrielle and I have finally wrote and put up the article on "Healing Steps for the CS" in the news library. She wrote the core of it in her journal entry, and I took it and fleshed it out. This is an article to help CSs know what they need to do to rebuild, so they go into it with the eyes wide open and basics of what to do.

Here's the link to the article:
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-infidelity-through-faith/news/view/4974162

We hope it can prove helpful to both BSs and CSs.
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Cole thanks for this. Gabrielle had recommended the books to me suggested in the article through the Cheaters Anonymous group. I'm happy to report that many of the items listed in the must do's for the CS I'm doing already. I'm reconnecting to my faith and I'm seeing a psycologist to find out what's wrong with me and how I could do such a thing. We were seeing a marriage councilor together but he was indeed making it worse so we stopped going to him. He would bring out all of these raw emotions and send us away with no tools on how to deal with them. My wife is seeing a psychiatrist. She was seeing him prior to D-day for PTSD (Post trumatic stress disorder) So you can imagine the effect my affair has had on her.
It's been 7 1/2 months since discovery and we are progressing. Very, very slowly but we are progressing.
Group FounderCole50
Cole50
Hi Impono,

Glad it is of help. I think the key parts of that is ones attitude of humility and willingness to do whatever it takes, facing the hard stuff, and working through it. It sounds like that is what you are doing. You're on the right track!

But admittedly it is a long road no matter how good you do. And while most of the work happens with you, the BS can either make the going slower or halt it altogether if they get stuck in the grieving process. If your wife is willing, it would be good for her to read the three articles on Healing Steps for the BS, of which the first two mostly apply in your situation, it sounds like:

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-infidelity-through-faith/news/view/3895379

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-infidelity-through-faith/news/view/3914953

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-infidelity-through-faith/news/view/4008020

And the stages of grief as it relates to infidelity would be good for both of you to read:

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/healing-infidelity-through-faith/news/view/3932216

Praying that you will be continue to heal and grow together as a couple.