So freeing when we can admit are mistakes. maybe the generational thing has been broken. You obviously must unconditionally love her for her to feel free to admit that. Love is soo healing.

I find having children brings all those wounds up and gives me a chance to heal them. My duaghters are both beautiful and I'm getting older and my looks are changing. I feel some grief but am able to feel it and so celebrate them. But I know it will be harder at other life points -- when they get htings I never had. Being aware helps a lot.

You are soo wise. I too have 'lost the way i use to look', but find that their is such a 'other' beauty in us older gals. we have expirences and have learned how to grow through hardships. The beauty in love is so much more meaningful then looks. My mother died maybe 12 years ago. I am so thankful that we worked through so many issues. Most of them i brought on, i was such a brat. I use to hate who she was but now i wish i could be soo more like her. She had so many qualities that i wish i had. Too bad it took so long to appriciate her. I hope your girls appriciate you.
I don't have any kids except one boy i gave up for adoption, was only 17. My husband has a daughter from his first marrage, who lives in our other house but dosen't want much to do with either of us. I think she has alot of feelings about me 'taking her dad away'. maybe time will heal.