Wanted to let you all know that we did get temporary custody of our granddaughters (ages 4 and 19 months) on thursday. Both bio mom and bio dad only get supervised visitation with them through us or the kids other grandmother. We were so excited. She never showed up for court on thursday but I kept close tabs on her this past week and where she was going. She did try to run with them but I was able to know her where abouts by following her without her knowing it. Maybe I should have been a detective lol. I had some very good friends give us some clothing and shoes to get us started with them. My son gave us a baby bed for the little one and I already had a full size bed in the spare room for the older child. I went yesterday and got wic for them. That is a big help. They gave us no problem in getting it. I slso went to our Job and Family services for children. I applied for bennefits for the girls. They said I would need to come back on September 11 for an appointment to see what we qualify for. She did state at my interview with her yesterday that we would not get food stamps for the girls because my husband and I make to much. So through all this time we have to wait it looks like we wont get anything from them till the end of September. The bio mom is getting assistance for the children in another county. She lives in a different county than we do in ohio. She will probably get their benefits for them for September and get to use them for herself. I am so angry over this. They told me since it is so late in the month they may not be able to stop her from getting them. We talked with her and she said she would give us 50 dollars of food stamps for the girls for the month of september. she gets 516 dollars a month for her and the two kids. I was so mad that she only would give them 50 dollars. I am calling the county she lives in and turning her in for this. I dont know if they will do anything or not but she really makes me mad doing that. She called last night and asked if she could borrow money to get something to eat because she didnt have anything. I told my husband hell no she is getting nothing from us. That is his daughter not mine. She never asked about the kids just wanted money from us. How can someone do that. Sorry for venting a little bit. The case worker from children services told us as soon as we get the first check for the girls to save 180 dollars and petition for legal custody. She said this is going to be long term with us having them. I was wondering if anyone has had any experience in doing this? Bio father is not going to contest it but I am not sure if bio mother will. we are not able to get other help like kinship funds and being able to make other decisions for the girls. she told us we didnt need an attorney to do this just petition through the courts and the money she said we would need is just filing fees and court costs. On top of that my doctor told me i could not go back to my job i was doing because of the stress level and i have panic disorder along with mood disorder nos. I was not able to pass the fitness of duty exam to be able to perform my duties as a 911 dispatcher. That is going to put us in a very bad place. I will lose my money as of october 20th this year and our insurance. i am not sure what we will do then. both my husband and i are on meds for our health and take them on a daily basis. I am more concerned about having money to keep our house and getting things for the children. My husband is working but he only make 9.75 an hour and is not offered health insurance. Does anyone know of any help we may qualify when this happens? I am looking for work but there is just no jobs out there. My doctor says I am not totally disabled to qualify for disablity. I just keep reminding myself to take one day at a time and things will work out. If anyone has any suggestions it would be greatly appreicated. Thanks to all.
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