Wow - yours is one day before ours!
We haven't heard from Pinky in three weeks, and we're not even sure she remembers the date. But we've made it clear to the kids that NOTHING will change except some paperwork. Their last names will remain the same and the useless bio-dads' names will disappear from their new birth certificates (a good thing in my opinion, since they've never been involved in their lives anyway).
And we've told them that Pinky will still be their "Mommy" (How I wish that didn't have to be true), because we don't want them to think their lives will be disrupted once more.
I hope your hearing goes smoothly!!!!

Thank you Sara ! I hope all goes well with yours too ! The kids have asked what to call us. We told them anything they feel comfortable with. We have explained to them that we are taking a parental role, but they still have their bio parents. We are not trying to take thier place , just stepping up to give them a stable, loving home and hopefully dad and mom will get help for their problems, so they can be part of thier lives. They are reminded by us all the time that thier bio parents love them so much and enough to let us step in and do for them what they couldn't do...

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Portrait thing is that you are confirming to your grandchildren thAt you. 're and their life will be secure. Our grandson was baptized in the hospital on his mother's chest. We decided to hAve him baptized in church with family.and friends to celebrate.

Wow congratulations to Snow and to Sara! What your feeling is normal Snow. Once you are not having the outside influence such as court and DHS you'll see a big difference in the stress level go down. I took the kids on a road trip the day after the adoption. We really didn't have a destination, just headed north and if something looked cool, we stopped. I took this trip for us to have time with only each other experiencing something new together and for me it was my way of saying I didn't have to ask to take my GC on vacation and give location with dates and time, which was my biggest therapy.

When we came home, we looked at pictures and told stories of our trip. This help move the negativity out of our home, If you can do this please try. We now travel once a year and it's great!

What cracks me up is the benefits you qualify for once you adopt your grandchildren.

You'd think, logically, that taking care of someone else's child would quality you for more benefits. After all, they aren't your kids.

But ironically, the goodies kick in when they DO become yours. I just don't understand government sometimes.

Congratulations Snow and Sara!!!! How exciting!

Snow, I agree with you and would skip visit.

Sara, I hear you about the benefits. Crazy! Our GD can't be on anything of ours, but she is 17 and does not want to be adopted now. CPS planned to terminate parental rights when she was 6, but my horrid daughter convinced a new SW that she was a wonderful mother and I was trying to steal her child.

Sara, are you not getting any benefits ? We were getting them as foster parents and we will continue to get help after they are adopted . Every little bit helps .

Since we weren't foster parents we got nothing except Medicare for the three kids.

Congratulations Sara and Snow!

Snowshoe - let us know how everything goes!!!