Grandparents Raising Children Support Group

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SaraBT 04/12/2010

In late February, my husband's daughter was thrown out of her mother's house after stealing pills, lying about her whereabouts, getting drunk in a bar with a 70-year-old guy, beating up her mom and being hauled off to jail. Then getting money to come back to our state from one guy, then double-crossing him by arriving three hours earlier and going off with yet another guy.

We blocked her phone because neither of us knew what to say. I mean, what do you say to someone who does stuff like that?

So we haven't heard from her since, and she just left a message on my husband's cell. whining that she needs to see "her" children, blah, blah, blah. "They're MY children." Oh, really?

But the best -- the VERY best -- was: "so because I drink a beer you won't let me talk to MY KIDS for two months?"

We couldn't tell if she was high or not, but usually when she gets whiny and angry she's on something.

Sheesh!!!!

deleted_user 04/14/2010

omgosh!dont blame you at all! I wouldnd even let them know about it!How long has she gone before without calling?

SaraBT 04/14/2010

This is a record -- almost two months. Mostly it's because I've blocked her cell number. But if she wanted to get hold of her drug dealer she would find a way to call, I'm sure!

I really don't want to unblock her number, but I can see my husband is starting to cave. The good news is that he doesn't want her visiting us anymore -- HE actually suggested that we meet at a mall of McDonald's.

I could go along with that one!

deleted_user 04/14/2010

What NERVE...... Sorry that your PEACE is gone again. I agree, you shouldn't let her into your home, she beat up her Mom, so who knows what she would do at your house. Don't take any chances with her....meet her at a public place you like, so if she doesn't show, you can still have fun :)

GMaWilli 04/14/2010

Oh Sara, I'm SO sorry the wonderful, lovely period of peace & quiet has been shattered once again. Such a pity. I'd also ONLY let her see them in a public place; not that she deserves to see them AT ALL!!!! Amazing how they're "HER" children when she wants what SHE wants, but they're NOT HER children when it comes to any of the responsibilities of caring for them or paying for their care. Oh, I truly feel for you, girl!!! I think I'd have to make Grandpa take them to see her if he's the one caving. Go treat yourself to a Spa day while they're gone!!!!!!

SaraBT 04/14/2010

I still can't get over the part about "one beer and you won't let me see the kids for two months." HAHAHA -- IF only that were the case. She either blacked out for two days or thinks we don't know about beating up her mom.

What a marooooon!

Hopefully she won't call for another two months.

deleted_user 04/15/2010

Hopefully longer!!!! That's why I can't even talk to the bio's anymore....they don't make any sense, LOL.

deleted_user 05/11/2010

I completely understand! My daughter's bio mom will go months without any contact, then calls crying and saying things like "she's all I think of everyday" and "I really miss MY daughter." She also tells my brother (her ex)that I am trying to turn "her" daughter against her and won't let her talk to her--even though I have never prevented her from talking to her or seeing her. I do have strict rules about it though:

1. She can't take my daughter anywhere unless I am with them

2. She can't bring or discuss any friends (including BF) to meet her

3. She has to abide by all of my rules

All she has to do is call to set up something or even to just talk with my daughter. She has seen her 1 time since Christmas and has only spoken to her 3 times. Yet, all she ever thinks about is "her" daughter (gag!)

SaraBT 05/11/2010

Rjordanteach, you're right -- it's almost word for word!

When I married my husband his ex was a real b**** for the first couple of years. But I can say this about her: If I had blocked her phone number she would have been at our door in five minutes screeching that if she wanted to see her kids she was going to see her kids.

I block her daughter's number and we don't hear a peep for nearly three months. Goes to show how much she wants to see "her" kids!

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