After saying they wouldnt get involved, it was a custody dispute, dss came to the house Friday. I was at work .Ddmom calls me freaking out, she says the worker told her she was bipolar and missing her meds. I have no idea where they got that from. As far as I know, she hasnt been diagnosed with bipolar, and I know she hasnt had any meds, she missed her psychiatrist appt. She lied to them and said she lives at her bf house, and that the baby lives with her. Dh said nothing because he doesnt trust DSS and says what we say to them has nothing to do with him..
They also said there were allegations against the grandmother that she couldnt provide for the kids, and couldnt abide by the existing court order for my grandson! I was upset with them for those comments. Yes its hard when I get no help, supporting the kids and paying for daycare for a gd I have no custody of. But I do it anyway. I'm the one that called THEM thursday. Terrifies me when you cant trust what comes out of dss mouths.
I told her the order states unsupervised visitation for the gs with his mother, AS ARRANGED by grandmother. I allow her to take him to the park and the neighborhood pool, not off to tinytown with her druggy friends. She lives with me and gets visitation all day as well.
So DSS set an appt up for me and ddmom this am. I went in there, and some stuff did come out.
She asked ddmom why the baby has been in daycare for 2 months. She replied because she has errands to run. I told her to tell the truth, she calls me at work crying that she cant handle the baby, thats why shes in daycare. She admitted it then. The worker looked surprised, shes your 7 mo and you cant handle her? She admitted she doesnt know what to do when she is crying. The worker said that concerns her. She told her these are your children. Babies cry, thats what they do. She asked me if the baby is difficult, my dh told her she only cries when shes hungry. I told her she cries when she wants to be moved from floor, to walker, to swing, to pick her up. Ddmom says she picks her up as a last resort Worker asked if she needed parenting classes. We both pointed out shes had them already. I told her thats why I think its important for her to get into therapy, and find out whats really wrong.
She told ddmom to sign so she can read the psych eval from may, and for her to get Medicaid and get back in therapy. She gave her until the 13th for a drug screen and Medicaid paperwork.
DDmom also made the statement that pawpaw dumps gs on her sometimes. I told her I would never call asking someone to watch their child dumping him on you
Social worker just kept writing it down. SW told ddmom, it would be ok to call grandma a couple times for advice for what to do with a baby, but this doesnt sound like a couple of times. As I was leaving, I let her know it happens every time I dont take her to daycare, ddmom calls me at work crying that she cant handle it. She said she understands whats going on. I hope so. I hope she sees what is really going on, nothing less, and nothing crazy DSS more.
I just hope this is going to help, and DSS isnt going to make my life a living hell because I called them. Ddmom likes to get mad and threaten to take the baby to live in tinytown with her friends with pitt bulls, alcohol abuse, and pot smoking friends with drug convictions. (Usually over her inability to get a job, or properly clean the kitchen)
I will live with my current situation, but I cant live forever with constant threats, daughter trying to control me with gd, and constant worry about the babys safety and raging ddmom with her love of drama.