Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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This morning "it was the best of times and then it was the worst of times". Today is her 9th birthday and all she wanted for a present was a DSI lite. I bought a like new used one on Amazon .com and we gave it to her this morning. Oh boy you could have wrapped the smiles a giddiness around the world. Until right before we left for school she dropped it in the toilet. Her life was ruined not to mention her birthday! We have managed by now to realize her life hasn't ended and stuff is just stuff. Poppy has it at work with him and is trying to dry it out - time will tell but it's probably shot because she immediately turned it on after retrieving it. She is so non-materialistic, but the meltdown, heartbreak and tears seemed to be for all the losses she has been through over the years that she stuffs and doesn't cry about, just vomits over. So if she had to have a cry I guess it's okay that it was over a DSI lost to the toilet.
daisydduck
You are so right. My gs is 19 now and he doesn't always follow the rules. We go very strict w/him and theatened to throw him out, etc. He finally said: "if you want me out, I"ll go!". He has no money, no car, nothing, except his guitars which are now getting old and need work that he can't afford. This Christmas is a warm jacket, good boots and new jeans. I thought alot about this, comparing how we raised our three kids and how we have raised him. My son has always been critical about how we have raised our gs. I have tried to explain to him that it is different. My son never had to worry about who his mom and dad were, that he had his room to keep in a mess because it was his, his toys, his privacy, etc. Our gs had everything snatched away at age 4 and we didn't get him back until he turning 6. There was emotional and physical abuse, neglect and finally abandonment. We have had some serious talks with him about his losses and our love for him no matter what. I found that he thought we only took him in because his mom was our daughter. No words can fully express the losses our gc have suffered and how those losses have affected their sense of security. Right now, he cannot find a job or get into college and we can only spare a few dollars once in awhile, but we do have our little family that we have created and he knows now that we love him for being him. There is a fine line between spoiling and caring as well as loving your child and enabling him. You are to be complimented on the way you are handling the situation. Your gd will grow up knowing that "stuff" doesn't matter but she is loved w/or w/o "stuff"
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I've heard if you bury electronic things in a big bowl of uncooked rice it will draw out any moisture. I've heard of people doing this with cell phones and they ended up working again. I think it has to sit buried in the rice for a day or two.
BuffyS
I know someone who dropped their digital camera in the water at the beach and after several months, it was working again!
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