Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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i went to daughters session last night like a good mommy attempting to try and give the therapists the history and why it all happened like it did.
I was shut down, redirected, my daughter ripped me to shreds told me i had been a horrible mother, should have had my kids taken away (they witnessed dv), that she has spent her life trying to get away from me and now the only reason she even remotely speaks to me is because i am holding her daughter captive and she never abused gd, does not abuse drugs and once she gets gd back she will discipline her however she has to.
I left a near 3 hour session completely broken open and shredded.
i feel like i stopped by my doctors office for a check and instead was cut open without anasteshia.
im completely defeated today.
I was shut down, redirected, my daughter ripped me to shreds told me i had been a horrible mother, should have had my kids taken away (they witnessed dv), that she has spent her life trying to get away from me and now the only reason she even remotely speaks to me is because i am holding her daughter captive and she never abused gd, does not abuse drugs and once she gets gd back she will discipline her however she has to.
I left a near 3 hour session completely broken open and shredded.
i feel like i stopped by my doctors office for a check and instead was cut open without anasteshia.
im completely defeated today.
Don't feel defeated. No matter what you "did" your daughter still had choices to make and made the wrong ones. She is simply trying to place blame and her anger on someone else, when SHE is the one who needs to own it.
Regardless of what you supposedly "did" YOU are the one who has stepped up to the plate and you're doing the responsible, grown-up, adult, mature thing by taking care of her child. SHE, on the other hand, still is not and she hates it and resents you for being the responsible one.
I'm sure her diatribe felt awful, but I think you just witnessed her own problems in dramatic fashion. SHE is the one who needs to work on that anger, etc. with her therapist.
I hope you can come to the point of realizing that no matter what happened in a child's home, ultimately it is that child's responsibility to grow up and deal with it. It doesn't sound as if she's ready yet.