Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.
My daughter and her boyfriend, (father of my granddaughters), are about to lose their parental rights to my beautiful granddaughters. I am in the process of applying for guardianship of them, they are currently in foster care, and the foster parents who already have 6 kids, (all foster) are applying to adopt my granddaughters too. I am told that grandparents basically have no rights and that I have to prove that there is a bond between me and my granddaughters. I am a single woman who is currently in between jobs at the moment and in the process of selling my home due to divorce. I do not know if I will have any chance of gaining custody of my granddaughters, because of my financial situation. My daughter and her boyfriend were on drugs, and when the youngest child was born she tested positive for meth, CPS gave the baby and my oldest granddaughter to me, and put my daughter directly into a rehab program, the father protested and was threatning to come get the two girls after 4 days, and since there was no charges pending on him yet, CPS was affraid that he could get them legally, which they did not want since they had not filed on him yet, so they told him either he agreed to let them stay with me or the girls would be put into foster care and he choose foster care. They have since filed charges on him for domestic violence and child abuse. CPS gave the oldest one to my daughter for awhile while she was in the drug program, but took her from her when she could and would not stay away from her abuser. I have always shared a close bond with my oldest granddaughter who is 5 years old, she spent more time with grandma then she did at home, she was sent to 5 different foster homes before they placed her where she is now with her younger sister, and I have not been able to see them very much because I was told that during the reunification process all focus is on reuniting parents with children. I do not believe the foster parents actually care that much for the oldest of my granddaughter and that they just want to adopt the baby. On one of the occassions that I got to visit with my granddaughters, the oldest told me that the foster mother spanked her face, she also told two other people the same thing, CPS said that they investigated it but found the allegations to be false. Please I need help and advice, I am so affraid that the foster parents will be choosen over me because I am single with no job and selling my home, and that my grandchildren are risk of abuse by their foster parents, and I feel like my heart is being riped out my chest by thought that I stand a very good chance of losing them and never seeing them again for the rest of my life.