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Let me tell you all the story of a very special person who needs alot of prayers.
Some of you already know that I was also raised by my grandparents,so to me my uncle I have always concidered my brother.He is 68 years old and a beautiful person.He bearly stand 4 feet tall has black hair and blue/gray eyes.He could sit in a room all day with you and never speak more than 3 words but make him mad and see how well he can talk..lol...
He has a lot of phisical problems.He has a mouth deformity and he has no tear ducts so he can not cry.The saddest thing you will ever see is someone who loved his mother dearly but could not cry at her funeal.It broke my heart just seeing his pain.
He is a I beleive Autistic,most people say he is retarded but I have always felt they were wrong.I found at an early age that everone was wrong that he was a very inteligent person.My gm was told when he was child that he was unteachable that he would never learn anything but when I was 10 I helped him to learn to write his name and the ABC'S and he can even add and subtract a little.
My gm passed away 20 years ago and he has lived since then with his oldest sister and her family.About 8 years ago he had a massive heart attck and was in ICU for over a month.The dr told us that his organs were shutting down and that we should make a decission to take him off of the ventalator and let him go.So me and the other sister talked and did make the choice and were there with him when everything was unplugged.He took one real deep breath and we thought it was the end but everyone was wrong even the drs.He took a couple more and opened his eyes and asked us why were crying.He started breathing on his own and all his vitals and bodily functions started improving and he was home in 2 weeks time.The dr said he had never seen anything like it,that if he hadn't seen it with his own eyes he wouldn't beleive it.He told us that all the tests showed very little brain activity,kidney function and everything pointed to him dieing.He appoligized for making us make a choice like that.
Now my brother is back in the hospital with congestive heart failure.The drs have told us to spend as much time with him as possible,that they don't think he will make it much longer.They want to do somekind of procedure to see how much fluid is on his heart and lungs and what kind of damage it has done but he has been on large doses of blood thinner since the other heart attack and they say his blood is too thin and he would bleed to death.His heart is beating very slow now but he still talks to us and remember us all.He seems fine but the drs say that looks are deceiving.He is not fine and could go at any minute.
So when you pray please keep my brother in your prayers.We need another mirical [sp?] for him.He is loved so much and we don't want to loose him.
Thanks
Janey
Some of you already know that I was also raised by my grandparents,so to me my uncle I have always concidered my brother.He is 68 years old and a beautiful person.He bearly stand 4 feet tall has black hair and blue/gray eyes.He could sit in a room all day with you and never speak more than 3 words but make him mad and see how well he can talk..lol...
He has a lot of phisical problems.He has a mouth deformity and he has no tear ducts so he can not cry.The saddest thing you will ever see is someone who loved his mother dearly but could not cry at her funeal.It broke my heart just seeing his pain.
He is a I beleive Autistic,most people say he is retarded but I have always felt they were wrong.I found at an early age that everone was wrong that he was a very inteligent person.My gm was told when he was child that he was unteachable that he would never learn anything but when I was 10 I helped him to learn to write his name and the ABC'S and he can even add and subtract a little.
My gm passed away 20 years ago and he has lived since then with his oldest sister and her family.About 8 years ago he had a massive heart attck and was in ICU for over a month.The dr told us that his organs were shutting down and that we should make a decission to take him off of the ventalator and let him go.So me and the other sister talked and did make the choice and were there with him when everything was unplugged.He took one real deep breath and we thought it was the end but everyone was wrong even the drs.He took a couple more and opened his eyes and asked us why were crying.He started breathing on his own and all his vitals and bodily functions started improving and he was home in 2 weeks time.The dr said he had never seen anything like it,that if he hadn't seen it with his own eyes he wouldn't beleive it.He told us that all the tests showed very little brain activity,kidney function and everything pointed to him dieing.He appoligized for making us make a choice like that.
Now my brother is back in the hospital with congestive heart failure.The drs have told us to spend as much time with him as possible,that they don't think he will make it much longer.They want to do somekind of procedure to see how much fluid is on his heart and lungs and what kind of damage it has done but he has been on large doses of blood thinner since the other heart attack and they say his blood is too thin and he would bleed to death.His heart is beating very slow now but he still talks to us and remember us all.He seems fine but the drs say that looks are deceiving.He is not fine and could go at any minute.
So when you pray please keep my brother in your prayers.We need another mirical [sp?] for him.He is loved so much and we don't want to loose him.
Thanks
Janey
Your story makes me wonder if he accomplished what he was supposed to in the past 8 years.
My sister-in-law had a genetic lung cancer, and was in her final two weeks at hospice. The doctors said we should all say "good-bye." A long story, because she wasn't Catholic, but a priest stopped by and prayed with her and my brother. Within two weeks she was back at work, and in pain, but was able to function at about 90%!!! Her story was written up in a catholic newspaper.
Well, within a few months my brother was diagnosed with mesothelioma. Now the two of them had terminal cancer!!!
She stayed alive long enough to help him become adjusted to his disease, made peace with her eldest daughter (another long story - they loved each other but had some issues), and accepted the Lord.
She lasted about two years after she was supposed to die. I believe she was given that reprieve for a reason. Now it will be my brother's turn, but so far, thank God, he's also functioning at 90% -- waaaay beyond doctors' predictions.
Another quick story - back in the 80s a 13-year-old girl wrote a letter to Gorbachev asking him to do something involving peace, I can't remember. Anyway, he took it seriously and took some action (again, I can't remember). She died in a plane crash about a year later.
So maybe your uncle/brother did what God wanted him to do when he got an extra 8 years. I would advise you to think about what that was, and perhaps it can give you some peace. In other words, the miracle may have already happened.
But I'll pray for him and you anyway :-)
Hugs,
Sara
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samantha_Smith
Her story has always inspired me, because I remember hearing about her death. My first thought was: She did what the Lord sent her to do and now she's going home to Him.
You have been through so much lately, and now this....
My prayers are with you all.
No matter what happens you will always have those additional eight years of memories! May the Lord make whatever is His will be smooth and comfortable for everyone. God Bless. Tell your brother we are praying for him.
My prayer for him right now is that if God is going to take him to just let him go to sleep and not wake up.I can't take seeing him in pain.To us he is very much like a child and it tears me apart to see him hurting.
The grandmother [my mother's mother] who raised me had 16 brothers and sisters.That makes for a whole lot of aunts uncles and cousins.It seems like we are always going to something;a weddings funerals baby showers,family diners..etc.My husband and I have been married 11 years and he still hasn't met all of my family.Just about every time we go to town I will end up seeing one of them and have to explain that its one family.It just astounds him just how big my family really is.There were 2 deputies came to our house when we 1st got custody of our oldest gc and both of them turned out to be my cousins.When we 1st got married the sessions judge was my cousin,the sherriff was my Godfather [ also my grandmother's nephew] ,I had 8 cousin in the sherriffs dept and 6 in the police dept.My hubby used to tease me and say that he had to be carefull because I could get away with murder in this town!!