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On Monday my favorite uncle [84] fell while grocery shopping and broke his hip.He had hip replacement surgery on Wednesday and when he came out of surgery he had pneumonia and quickly began to deteriate by Thursday morning I received a call at 2:30 that he was getting worse and that we needed to get there asap and did we want him recusitated[sp?]if needed.By the time we got there he was completely non responsive.When there was no change by late evening we came home for a while to rest,by 8:00 pm the DR called me told me that we needed to make decisions about whether to keep up all the meds or to just make him as comfortable as possible and let him go on,and that he would meet with us Friday morning for us to give him our decision.We chose to let him go with as much dignity and as comfortable as possible.My mother and I stayed all day and at 9:00 pm the ANGELS came and took him home.
He hadn't been to the DR but 1 other time in his life and that was when he had a hernia to rupture about 10 years ago.The DR at the ER in our town told me that his heart was as strong as that of a 50 year old before they sent him for the surgery and he was doing great and talking just before he went in for the surgery but now he is gone and my heart is broken!He was the best uncle that anyone could ever wish for.He never had children of his own but always treated all of us as if we were his.I even took my driving test in his car.He always made sure that we had every thing we needed and most of what we wanted.If he had $1 to his name and thought one of us needed it he would give to us.
GOODBYE,UNCLE ALBERT,I LOVE YOU! REST IN PEACE MY DARLING!!!
He hadn't been to the DR but 1 other time in his life and that was when he had a hernia to rupture about 10 years ago.The DR at the ER in our town told me that his heart was as strong as that of a 50 year old before they sent him for the surgery and he was doing great and talking just before he went in for the surgery but now he is gone and my heart is broken!He was the best uncle that anyone could ever wish for.He never had children of his own but always treated all of us as if we were his.I even took my driving test in his car.He always made sure that we had every thing we needed and most of what we wanted.If he had $1 to his name and thought one of us needed it he would give to us.
GOODBYE,UNCLE ALBERT,I LOVE YOU! REST IN PEACE MY DARLING!!!
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know that no words that I write will make your pain easier, however, I wanted to let you know this. As long as you keep all those wonderful memories of your Uncle Albert alive, he will never be far from you.
Please accept this hug from me to you
{{{{{{{{mamaw}}}}}}}}}}}
Gamma
God Bless you all during this time!
So sorry for you great loss.
grandee
Funny how there is always one person when something like this happens who causes problems.His stepdaughter did absolutely nothing for him during all this,she didn't even come see him while he was in the hospital.She didn't help with trying to get anything together before we went down to make the funeral arrangements but she came to the funeral home while we were making the arrangements and tried to just take over after MOM and I had already gotten it all together.I had it all wrote down and just handed it over to the dirrector.She is mad at me because when he first fell I promised him that I would go pick his car up from the store and that I wouldn't let anyone have it but my DAD.She called the ER here before they transfered him and demanded that I give her the car and I refused.Now my DAD has the car and my aunt is staying with my parents where she wants to be and the stepdaughter is being a bitch about it.She is being mean to my Mom because she is getting gaurdianship over my aunt[her mind is comming and going now].We are afraid that she[daughter]would not take care of her and be mean to her so we are taking steps to prevent it.My aunt keeps begging us not to make her go with her daughter. She even went so far as to go tell my sister in law[she works with her]that I was down at the funeral home making funeral arrangemants for my hubby who was real sick and I wasn't taking care of him because I wanted him to die so I could collect the 1.5 million dollar life insurance policy I have on him.My brother in law called my father in law and told him and was all upset[we don't see hubby's brother much because he's an alcoholic and violent when he drinks].My father in law told him it wasn't true.That my hubby is sick but that I take good care of him and that I don't even have any inssurance on him.Then he called us and told us what was being said.Now if something happens to my hubby his brother will think I had something to do with it.
She is being a real bitch and I am about fed up with her.
Thank you all for the support and all the prayers during my time of need.Sorry about my little rant but I am just so mad at her.