Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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My DD was here and things were slow so she was telling me about how to find my son. IRS called here about a year ago looking for him due to fraud on his taxes regarding my GD we have. They told me he was living in Arizona. Last I heard before that, he told his GF in Florida he was living in NYC.
It looks like his wife was arrested for domestic violence in Tucson AZ. looking up more information it wasn't against her daughter, looks like DIL's mother is raising the teen from a previous relationship. So I guess it had to be against my son. I'm happy because he must not have hit back, which show's he still holds some of the morals I raised him with. I'm sad because I have worried about him for so long, and yet he hasn't wanted anything to do with his daughter or us. I never have been able to figure out what we did for him to turn away from us.
I miss him dearly we were so close before she moved in and removed him from our family. That's the only way I can describe it! He must have wanted it, because he allowed her to do it. I pray he finds peace and that someday he will return to us.
We have quads and I remember when we would take them up north and my GD (his little girl) first came to live with us. I'd have her on the back and with every bump she would giggle. The giggle sounded so much like her fathers when he was that age. Every time we road I would cry and pray that someday he'd be on the back and we'd be having fun. God answered that prayer several years ago. He came into our lives ( just to get money and then leave). Once when he was over we went ridding and we laughed. It wasn't up north like I wanted, but yet we got to laugh and my prayer was answered... I will keep praying and always remember the day we laughed together.
It looks like his wife was arrested for domestic violence in Tucson AZ. looking up more information it wasn't against her daughter, looks like DIL's mother is raising the teen from a previous relationship. So I guess it had to be against my son. I'm happy because he must not have hit back, which show's he still holds some of the morals I raised him with. I'm sad because I have worried about him for so long, and yet he hasn't wanted anything to do with his daughter or us. I never have been able to figure out what we did for him to turn away from us.
I miss him dearly we were so close before she moved in and removed him from our family. That's the only way I can describe it! He must have wanted it, because he allowed her to do it. I pray he finds peace and that someday he will return to us.
We have quads and I remember when we would take them up north and my GD (his little girl) first came to live with us. I'd have her on the back and with every bump she would giggle. The giggle sounded so much like her fathers when he was that age. Every time we road I would cry and pray that someday he'd be on the back and we'd be having fun. God answered that prayer several years ago. He came into our lives ( just to get money and then leave). Once when he was over we went ridding and we laughed. It wasn't up north like I wanted, but yet we got to laugh and my prayer was answered... I will keep praying and always remember the day we laughed together.
I think I may know how that big hole in your heart feels. Sometimes, I search the internet for some little bit of knowledge, hoping she is alright. On my last search I found a mug shot. Surprisingly, I was happy, at least I know she is alive and hasnt been killed by one of her recent victims.
My girls are not safe if bios are around, still into drugs, etc... Being blamed for everything that I had nothing to do with, (I am not the one that watched horrific abuse [per 16 yr old] by the monster of both of my girls), I was not there during the final abuse that almost cost 16 yr old her life at under 3 yrs. I took back control of my life after I was awoken over and over by a phone ringing, when answered a "friend" of hers said hello (drunk and high) told me how dd "JUST WANTED TO TALK TO HER CHILDREN", I said "She doesn't have any!" and hung up. I told my hubs that he would be the one to answer the phone from that area from then on.
It isn't that I stopped loving and caring, I pray for her every day, but these 2 girls deserved better than a mourning mother. These kids feel enough guilt over what has happened, they didn't need me adding to it!
Hugs and prayers to all of you,
Mary