Hi all. We recently just got our two granddaughters a week ago yesterday. I knew it would be tough but I wasnt expecting all this. I am having so much trouble getting them to eat, sleep and listen to me. They are 4 years and 19 months. To top that off both are sick with colds now which I know a child gets cranky when they are sick. I struggling to bond with them. See they are my step daughters kids. I dont know if I am struggling to bond with them because I feel like I am failing at getting them to do anything. They cry for their bio mom alot. It brakes my heart but on the other hand I dont know why they would want to be with her when she dont take care of them. Their bio mom was over two days ago for her first visit. It was a terrible visit. Just what I expected. She never did anything with the girls. She sat on the couch for 4 hours and talked with them a couple of times, but mostly talked with her father and to my sons about how her life is right. About her boyfriend of the week. See children services told us this was going to be a long term placement. She is not getting that. I said to her, when are you going to start working on getting your life back together so you can be a mother to your daughters. Her response was I am working on it. I just left the room. I am angry that I have to let her into my home to have the visitation and that it ties me down sitting their supervising her visits. Children services said to start out with two days a week and after a few weeks if she is doing good then they will increase it to another day. I really dont know what to do? I want to keep the girls because I know how much they mean to my husband but on the other hand I cant stand his daughter and what she is doing to my life and those little girls life. If anyone has any words of advice please help me.
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