Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.
Hello, My Hus and I hv been our Gd's legal guardians for 1 year in October, but have basically raised her from birth. My daughter had / has a drug / alcohol problem, which led to lying, stealing and all that comes along with that life. And, I believe she may be bipolar. Our daughter has seen our grand spoadically over the past 2 years, but the last 5 months not seen her at all and hv only spoken to her a couple times.
Our grand misses her; Some days more than others. My Hus and I show her a tremendous amount of love and shower her with all a kid could ask for, but she still misses mom. When she asks me to call her, my daughter NEVER answers, nor does she respond to texts. I tell my god that her mom has to get things not working well in her head together and until then pray. We don't know where our daughter is or what she's doing.
Like all of you, we want our grand to be mentally healthy in spite of her mom abandoning her (she took her to school 2 yrs ago and never returned), and not knowing her dad. We took our Gd to a child therapist. After talking to us then my grand alone, she said our gd was well balanced / adjusted and for us to continue to do what we are doing and that it was normal for her to want her mom at times. I really hate the situation our has created, but feel blessed we are able to properly care for her. My husband and I both work full time jobs and commute a distance, but we always muster up strength to live on her
I could go on, but hello, I'm glad to have found this group.
How old is your GD?
Sounds like your doing everything you can. I'm sure it's hard for her to understand. School age must be more of a challange. I have my 4 yr old GS who's been in our home since birth. I can see confusion already. Starting school does worry me but we'll shower him with love & do our best. Mom is still around but it's not always in his best interest.
God bless you & your husband. Have to believe God helps us through these times.
According to the lawyer at probate the number of grandparents raising grandchildren is growing & not as uncommon as some believe.
What a mess.
Hugs
Sammy
She's 6. When she began school and saw all the other moms and dads it was hard for her. I told her some kids don't have moms or dads in their lives, because they aren't well, but they have living grandmas and papas. I suggested her Christian school start including gp's uncles aunts in their MD and FD programs. Our ill children, don't know the pain they cause their babies. Yes, and God does help, because when my daughter took a downward spiral, it was the worst pain I've ever felt and heartbreak. I prayed and still do for her complete healing and freedom from whatever has a stronghold on her life. Good luck to you on this journey. Hugs back.
Legally, document e erything. Every attempted call. The few completed calls. The very few visits. If she e er tries to get custody back, this is invaluable.
Best of luck to us all.