First I want to say I'm sorry for being gone for so long.I have had some health issues and not been able to get on here and keep everyone updated or give the support to you all,my dear friends,that I should have.You all were always on my mind when I could think through the medicine fog I've been in.
OK,let me give you a little background info:my mother has 6 children and 2 step children and she tries to be here for all of us,to help out whenever she can even if it means her health is at stake.She had me and my older brother[by 11 months]1st and waited 12 years to start having more children.My grandmother mostly raised me because my father had Epilepsy and would sometimes have 20-30 seizures a day.At this time she was only 16 and could not care for all 3 of us so my grandma took me home with her.I know that I was not a planned child[my mother was on birth control when she got pregnant with me] but I was loved all the same by my parents and grandparents and everyone did what they thought was best for me.
Any way here is the problem:My parents live in a once nice little 3 bedroom house.I say'once' because the house is only about 6 years old and looks 20 and run down on the inside because of 7 small grandchildren living there.My parents have 12 people living in their home right now:them,my aunt whose husband just passed away,my step brother and his 2 kids,my sister and her 2 kids and another sister and her 3 kids.The house is trashed,clothes and trash laying around every where,dirty dishes always in the kitchen,beds never made,the bath room looks like it has never been cleaned,you get the picture.My mother gets up every morning at 4 and starts cleaning and cooking for all these people who do absolutely nothing.Then by 10 am when they all get up its all trashed again. Everybody wants to eat at different times so she is constantly cooking for somebody. I have tried to tell her to make them cook for themselves but she just says that she would rather do it herself.I see the toll its taking on her and I don't know what to do.When no one lived there but her and my stepdad the house was always spotless now she is killing herself trying to keep up with all these people.I have tried to talk to me brother and sisters about it but they ignore me.She calls me in tears alot because no body helps her.I have even had to go down there at 2 in the morning because of my brother and sister fighting and break them up.My parents won't kick them out because they have no where to go and none of them have any income[except FOOD STAMPS] and my parents who are on a fixed income[about $1000 a month]are keeping every one up.I should also say that I have power of atterney over my parents but usually abide by their wishes.
I just don't know whtat to do,should I step in and kick everyone out, give them all a certain dated to be out by or just stay out of it?Please help me,I'm at my wits end!!!!