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Ok, so here I go. On Mother's Day, I just had to chuckle. Ok, snicker. My lil ones (my gks) gave me an awesome day. They showered ME with hugs and kisses and love. They gave me a vase with some flowers in it that THEY picked out, a card and a beautiful tennis bracelet type with pink hearts as the stones. I loved every minute of MY day with them.
That night, we were playing on the floor with them. Hubby had them squealing with laughter and the phone rang. It was my DD (the bio of the kids we are raising). She called to wish me a Happy Mother's Day and could hear the kids laughing and playing with papa. She talked to each of them for a minute and neither one really wanted to talk. They wanted to play. You could hear in her voice that she was disappointed that the kids didn't say Happy Mother's Day to her. It was almost as if she was just sitting there waiting for them to tell her that. She didn't really say much so I know that's what she was waiting for. I snickered at that point and asked the kids if they wanted to tell her HMD. They came to the phone said it real fast and took off to play with papa more. My gs did come ask her if she would come over and bring their sister over to visit. Her lame ass (excuse my language) answer was, "Oh I will talk to mama (me) and see what day would work, but 1 day soon I will." What this translates to mean is ummm, not in the foreseeable future. She told them that on Saturday (I believe) as well, when she just had to call to say hi to them. She has yet to talk to me about it or ask me about it, so I refuse to bring it up and say anything to her about it.
At that point, my DD perked up and started talking again. It began to get really loud in here with all the laughing and squealing so I just told her that I need to go and get back to the kids.
I feel like the longer she stays away, the better off these kids are. I know that may have sounded mean, but I hate sharing MY kiddos with her. I hate the fact that she thinks she can just come and go as she pleases and disrupts MY kiddo's lives just so she can play pretend mommy of the year. She only comes around once every couple of months anyways.
That night, we were playing on the floor with them. Hubby had them squealing with laughter and the phone rang. It was my DD (the bio of the kids we are raising). She called to wish me a Happy Mother's Day and could hear the kids laughing and playing with papa. She talked to each of them for a minute and neither one really wanted to talk. They wanted to play. You could hear in her voice that she was disappointed that the kids didn't say Happy Mother's Day to her. It was almost as if she was just sitting there waiting for them to tell her that. She didn't really say much so I know that's what she was waiting for. I snickered at that point and asked the kids if they wanted to tell her HMD. They came to the phone said it real fast and took off to play with papa more. My gs did come ask her if she would come over and bring their sister over to visit. Her lame ass (excuse my language) answer was, "Oh I will talk to mama (me) and see what day would work, but 1 day soon I will." What this translates to mean is ummm, not in the foreseeable future. She told them that on Saturday (I believe) as well, when she just had to call to say hi to them. She has yet to talk to me about it or ask me about it, so I refuse to bring it up and say anything to her about it.
At that point, my DD perked up and started talking again. It began to get really loud in here with all the laughing and squealing so I just told her that I need to go and get back to the kids.
I feel like the longer she stays away, the better off these kids are. I know that may have sounded mean, but I hate sharing MY kiddos with her. I hate the fact that she thinks she can just come and go as she pleases and disrupts MY kiddo's lives just so she can play pretend mommy of the year. She only comes around once every couple of months anyways.
I understand what you are saying...My GS does not want to talk to his bio-mom either..and when he does he says one or two words and runs off playing....
Do this bio's understand what they are missing???
So I wanted to make it a special day for BG as well... so we went and had our nails and toes done, bought some "BLING" for her backpack, had lunch and a snow comb as well as we went to my older son's to let her play with my GD... their "besties"...LOL!! we had a GREAT time together and all day she kept saying to me "I'm having a good mother's day mom are you?" I would say yes daughter I am...you know why? she would say why.... I would say because I we are having a mother daughter day... she would smile ear to ear and say I love you!
DD has been calling a few times a week to talk to GD but her habit of only talkin g to GD for a couple of minutes has come back to bite her on the a$$. GD now does not want to talk to her for more than just saying hi most days. Yesterday when bio called GD said hi and then hung up on bio, saying "I don't want to talk to her. I am mad at mommy Krystal cause she is never around." I refuse to force GD to talk to bio mom. In my eyes bio is just reaping what she has sowed with GD.
When Pinky is here on weekends, all I hear is "because I'm your mother and I said so!" Or "I'm your Mother and I'm telling you to do it naaaaaaillll!" Or even worse: "Who wants to have lunchy-poo?" As if they're all three years old. She talks to them that way on the phone, too, so no wonder they have better things to do. LOL