I allowed my kids to do sleepovers, however I can't stand the thought of my grands doing sleepovers. My 5 girl and 7 boy want the 6 boy next door to sleepover. I can't stand the thought . Too much chaos I don't want to be responsible for another rowdy child. I was never allowed sleepovers until in teens, and then one of the girls introduced pot. Girl Scout sleepover no kidding...
My kids didn't report anything bad at others houses , But I did find out they went out window together at my house, and later found one of their friends was being molested by her father ( my daughters spent the night there)
I hate the thought of the responsibilty and all, I would like to think I would allow it at some point but can't stand the thought now. I guess it depends on how much you trust your kids and how well you know the other parents , are they strict or slack? Go with your gut

I've been sort of the opposite. When they were younger I didn't worry as much. But our eldest is one gorgeous young lady - long legs, beautiful face, long blonde hair. I'm TERRIFIED what she could get into, especially with big brothers, uncles, stepfathers, etc. around all night long.

I thought back, and realized that I didn't have many sleepovers - mostly at relatives' homes. After 14 I didn't have any. I don't know whether my mom said "no" or whether it just didn't happen for whatever reason. I'd spend the whole day at a friend's, but always came home.

It's a hard call, because we live in a rural area and it's difficult for the kids to see each other. But I'm just getting increasingly uncomfortable with the sleepover thing except for their own aunts and uncles.

Found this blog: http://www.myreallifeparenting.com/The%2520Sleepover%2520Dilemma.html

That didn't work http://www.myreallifeparenting.com/The%2520Sleepover%2520Dilemma.html

Well u give up on the link but I googled sleepover maximum ages and clicked on the sleepover dilemma lots of parents inputs

Thanks, SCgramma - I found it. Interesting that her experience mirrors my own:

"I feel like something that could have been a wonderful part of growing up has become overkill. Once again society seems to have taken a good thing and over done it ad nauseum. With four kids in the house someone was always invited to spend the night - every weekend. If you let one, you have to let another. It gets crazy. Takes on a life of its own. Someone had to stop the madness. I couldn't live a life that was destined to star an overtired smart-mouthed kid EVERY weekend.
Why does EVERYthing have to turn into a sleepover?
I mean EVERYthing. Doesn't matter where they are, what they are doing or which kid it is. The magic words "spend the night" will always come into play."

And from Empoweringparents.com

"I am aware that Im probably in the minority when I suggest that perhaps its time for a re-evaluation of the concept of sleepovers. I think they should be the exception rather than the rule. In many cases, the parents go to sleep and the kids go on to party."

I think I am going to put a stop to sleepovers - at leas the "every weekend" ones.

Oh, I am so glad to find out that I am not the only one that is not comfortable with the idea of sleepovers. Why not visit and come home before bedtime? My gd thinks I am mean because I do not want her friends at the house overnight. I am not not comfortable with Paige going to homes where I do not know the parents. Some of these kids call and invite themselves so I wonder what is going on at their homes. I am so much older than the parents and do not know most of them well and have had to call one I do know and ask about the family situation. I work full time and the weekend is the only time I have to relax or get things done around the house. My gd has two friends that call around every weekend trying to get someone to invite them or get someone to stay at their house. That in itself makes me vary of the situation at those homes. Do families not do things together on the weekends anymore? I like to schedule family outings and not have to include others. I will look at these sites. Thank you for starting this conversation because it comes up often at our house.

It has not been and issue here, YET. Right now they get enough over nights at the other grandparents house with plenty of cousins in the same age bracket.

When my boys were in high school my house was the house where everyone spent the night. My boys went to school out of district, two boys from unstable homes would come home with them on the bus every weekend for four years. Another boy from a stable home would come whenever he could. At least I knew where they were and who they were with. Lucky for me they never gave me any trouble. The parents from the stable home, good people, I think the step dad was glad the kid was not at home. The singe mother had more then one loose screw, I found out that when they were seniors she was letting the kid from the good home shack up with his girl friend at her home.

There was an incident where a VERY unstable girl accused her girlfriend's brother of raping her during a sleepover. I know the girl, and she has a history of lying and being a drama queen, so who knows what the real story is? But just the fact that the girlfriend's brother is there during a sleepover gave me enough to think about. I refuse to allow our granddaughter to sleep there, and I equally hate the thought of waking up with strange people in my house.

I'd never even given consideration to older brothers before, but now it's a BIG issue.

Either way I'm sure I'll be seen as a bad grandmother. Oh, well....

I'm not comfortable with it either. Thankfully my kids have tons of cousins and I have no problem with them sleeping over with family or having them at our house.

I'm not comfortable with it and haven't allowed it, other than my goddaughter's children, who are more like cousins than friends. Even then, I'm very particular about sleeping arrangements and have strict rules.

I've allowed sleep overs during the grade school age. I let my oldest 15yo have her friends here...I know who we are and I'm not trusting with other parents. My grade school kids have friends over as well. We've even taken them camping with us. As you know my oldest was assulted as a 5yo, yet I remember sleepovers as a child and I want my grandchildren to have the same wounderful memories sleepovers can give, I just make sure I know the parents of grade school age and then have the teens here.