Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.
Had meeting at DSS today. All ddmom has to do is continue counseling and maybe get a job, to get gd back. that gives her a few months to prove herself.
I have gs custody, and now gd is in my care, and I know they are safe, fed, and clothed. They got her to sign a treatment plan, without going to court. That leaves her eligible for the housing, since she still legally has custody. If she stays true to therapy and gives regular updates, she can get gd back soon, if not, they will re-assess in 6 months. No unsupervised visits, until she proves herself.
The ball is in her court. I try to think yeah, she'll do this! and get her kids!
Then I remember, I have had gs for 2 years, and all she had left to complete since oct 07 was GET A JOB.....
The good news- I have decided to go out with my husband this sunday, and get a babysitter. He needs some RR, and theres a bluegrass festival in town!I have to remember to purchase tickets tomorrow.
This is Super important because he is afraid if we have to raise more kids, we will never get to do anything WE wanted to do.
I have gs custody, and now gd is in my care, and I know they are safe, fed, and clothed. They got her to sign a treatment plan, without going to court. That leaves her eligible for the housing, since she still legally has custody. If she stays true to therapy and gives regular updates, she can get gd back soon, if not, they will re-assess in 6 months. No unsupervised visits, until she proves herself.
The ball is in her court. I try to think yeah, she'll do this! and get her kids!
Then I remember, I have had gs for 2 years, and all she had left to complete since oct 07 was GET A JOB.....
The good news- I have decided to go out with my husband this sunday, and get a babysitter. He needs some RR, and theres a bluegrass festival in town!I have to remember to purchase tickets tomorrow.
This is Super important because he is afraid if we have to raise more kids, we will never get to do anything WE wanted to do.
I commend you on going out with your husband. It is so important that we go do things with our spouses or significant others to reassure them that they are still important to us through all of this. I am proud of you.
I know my husband and I went out this past Friday, . Not just to dinner and come right home, but bonafide get dressed up and go out to dinner with our other son, his wife, her parents and their friends. It was the first time in 2 years we have been able to do this. We then went dancing afterwards. Now, mind you, it wasn't easy leaving the house and it took us 20 mins of screaming and crying on the babies parts, the "wait momma, come bacccckkk" We told my gd and gs that we PROMISED that we would come back to them, but the tears in their eyes were enough to kill us. It broke my heart that their hearts were broken. We told her that we would wake her up when we got home to show her we came back.
We kept in touch with them via cell phone and my gd didn't want us to get off the phone. When we got home, a little before midnight, she was still awake and jumped in our arms.
The important thing is, that we as grands remember to take time for us and our spouses/S.O.
Have a great time with the hubs, that is something we need to do more of...taking time for ourselves.