I am new here, I am desperately seeking advice about parent child contact and can only assume many of you have been through this 100 times over. The parents willingly signed over my grand daughter in guardianship. We decided after seeing where the father sleeps that she is only 2 and best to come home everynight, but we allow visitation as much as 6am to 6pm if he would like and if he feeds her meals for the time he has her. First, are we liable as guardians goes allowing the children to go to a place we dont feel is truly safe? Does our liability end when the parents pick them up.until they return? He has a new used car every week or 2, he trades them they are rarely inspected. He has not had insurance that I am aware of at any point in time. He is on his 9th couch in 10 months, he couch hops, no permanent housing. Currently its between his girlfriend's (who is 17) parents couch, and his grandfather's who chain smokes inside. The girlfriends house has an aggressive dog who doesnt like small children. The mother spoke to me at length, she told me very concerning things that she was trying to share to say her home was safe, like about the dog and her husband leaving the wood stove door open all the time. My grand daughter also has severe asthma and they heat solely with wood. They kick one of their children out of their bedroom when my grand daughter used to spend the night prior to our guardianship. They are obsessed with my grand daughter, they threw her an extravagant birthday party, which her father did not pay for. He has not worked more than a few weeks on and off in 5 years. He then defrauded the state and collected welfare saying he had full custody of my grand daughter, which he never has had. The family then helped him get those fraudulent benefits back, the mother told me all about how she helped him. I feel like it's all a nightmare. Now he is pressing me for overnight visits again and we just dont think it's safe or a good idea. We dont like her going there anyway, but let her come home to the same place every night for stability. Clearly this is not a long term living situation for him, well it may be long for him, months, but not suitable for a child to bounce around like that. We are trying to be kind, but we are also contacting a lawyer. I am afraid the lawyer will advise supervised visits only with the whole situation as wacky as it is. He also has not been able to make it on time a single time to pick her up. He oversleeping every time, 10am is the pick up time normally, he comes between 1040 and noon each and every time. Now he takes her and the girlfriends mother photographs her and dresses her up in 10 outfits a day. The girlfriends mother also told me that the father doesnt do anything with my grand daughter routine wise and she has to make sure lunch is set out, dinner, tells him when to give her a bath etc etc. Prior to living with these people he would have me take her on "his" days all the time. He was less than interested in having her all of the time.
So, if I continue to not allow the overnights and it goes to court, does he really stand a chance of ending our guardianship? Am I standing on solid ground here? I guess I'm just doubting myself and I really was trying to avoid a war with him. I am preparing for one by documenting every single thing.
livintheday08/30/2019My husband and I stepped up to the plate two and a half years ago for our youngest grandchild. CPS was going to remove the child from her mother, because of substance abuse, and when they tested our grandchild she tested positive with high levels of meth and cocaine. No one from the agency explained to us on what to expect from a two and a half year old who is fixing to go...