Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.
I finally found a job. however, it requires me to move closer to job. I will miss this house terribly. We will have to rent it out. I don't know if I will be able to find anything near as nice.
My dd biomom currently sees the kids regularly since I provide most of the transportation. She lives 15 min away, as does biodad to 1yo. Again I provide most of transpo.
HOwever, biodad can use girlfriends car or his parents will pick up gd. His parents love gd.
I have no doubt when they find out I am moving paternal family will have a fit. biodad will try to get baby. However, he lives with gf and I think another roommate and dss says all will have to pass drug tests first.
I don't know if they can pass or not, they have a past with drug use.
I am trying to find a place 30 miles away but may end up having to move 100 miles to find something I can live in that is near a descent sized city so my husband has a chance to find work.
I am angry and depressed that I am forced to move. Frustrated because It has to be soon or I wont be able to get gs into headstart space for fall. Disgusted because biomom still has no job no prospects, and a bf who doesnt have any real work either, dont know if hes a criminal or not. ( Ive had gss for 2 years, gd for 7 months)They are living in low income apt and she can be evicted if they discover she has someone living there.
Afraid biodad will get gd and neglect her. Afraid dss will threaten to take gd if I have to move 100 miles away. Guilty for taking kids further from bios. (I know, they should get their crap together and not my fault)
And curious that maybe God is causing this so I can't enable bios visitation so much. But the kid do love the bios alot.
Joyce Meyers says we are confused because we keep trying to figure stuff out. Unfortunatley, since I am the only one in this house who can find work, and I was cursed since birth with feeling responsible for everything anyway, I am responsible to make this work.
My dd biomom currently sees the kids regularly since I provide most of the transportation. She lives 15 min away, as does biodad to 1yo. Again I provide most of transpo.
HOwever, biodad can use girlfriends car or his parents will pick up gd. His parents love gd.
I have no doubt when they find out I am moving paternal family will have a fit. biodad will try to get baby. However, he lives with gf and I think another roommate and dss says all will have to pass drug tests first.
I don't know if they can pass or not, they have a past with drug use.
I am trying to find a place 30 miles away but may end up having to move 100 miles to find something I can live in that is near a descent sized city so my husband has a chance to find work.
I am angry and depressed that I am forced to move. Frustrated because It has to be soon or I wont be able to get gs into headstart space for fall. Disgusted because biomom still has no job no prospects, and a bf who doesnt have any real work either, dont know if hes a criminal or not. ( Ive had gss for 2 years, gd for 7 months)They are living in low income apt and she can be evicted if they discover she has someone living there.
Afraid biodad will get gd and neglect her. Afraid dss will threaten to take gd if I have to move 100 miles away. Guilty for taking kids further from bios. (I know, they should get their crap together and not my fault)
And curious that maybe God is causing this so I can't enable bios visitation so much. But the kid do love the bios alot.
Joyce Meyers says we are confused because we keep trying to figure stuff out. Unfortunatley, since I am the only one in this house who can find work, and I was cursed since birth with feeling responsible for everything anyway, I am responsible to make this work.
I know it is so hard to leave your home you have lived in and loved for so long. I am so sorry about this. However, I agree with the other ladies who have posted wonderful things here. It isn't your responsibility to provide anything for the bio's other than being able to have a way to contact your grands. They lost their child(ren) for a reason so they should be the ones to have to make the effort to keep in contact with your grands. If the courts gave you custody and there is no geographical restriction on you, there shouldn't be a problem with you moving. As far as the biodad trying to get custody, I would think he would ahve to prove to the court that he is ready, willing and able to raise your grand. There is a reason why you've had him/her for so long.
Thank you to Daisy as well for this comment: "The sun will set tonight and rise again tomorrow morning, no matter what happens to you or I. It is our choice how we will accept the day. We still have that power. " I loved this statement and it makes so much sense...