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Oh this is going to be a stressful week.
We have a meeting with the psychologist on Wednesday to find out the results of gs autism assessment. I'm a little stressed about that though I am not sure why, it doesn't change anything. On paper, where he is now he fits the requirements. Until you know that there is a history of childhood trauma and attachment issues. Because the resulting symptoms are the same. While I like our paediatrician, he doesn't have experience with difficult histories as I had to educate him on that.
Then Friday we have court. I shouldn't be worried about that either, because the only thing that has changed for sd is she is back at the shelter. Nothing is going to change there either, but the going to court part is always stressful.
Sd posted on fb yesterday she was depressed and it's affecting her motivation, and with such a short time frame of two weeks to get everything done before she is screwed. After I got over the anger that she actually thinks she has only had two weeks to get a place, a job, and get enrolled in school when she has had 6 months, and if we want to get technical she has had one year and seven months. Doing all this at the last minute doesn't prove stability at all. She has moved 6 time in 6 months, three of those times were to homeless shelters. A new school year started in sept, it's now October. The one job she ever had last two weeks, because the people were annoying and pissing her off. Took her a year and a half to find some place to hire her. Grade 7 can't even get you a job at mcD's. When she called last week her big idea is to leave cas because she is tired of them in her life. She doesn't get a ton of money from them now that she is 18 but it is enough to cover rent and food, and she still gets her medical benefits and drug plan. She doesn't have to do anything like go to school or have a job to receive the money which is often require from most other foster care systems after reaching 18. She can be covered until she is 21 and do nothing for it. But no she is just going to get a job so she doesn't have to see a social worker once every couple of months. Sorry I didn't intend to rant.
So do I tell sd court is in one week and not two? If feel like it would be the right thing to do, but on the other hand she is trying to prove she is a responsible and stable adult yet she still needs reminding of important dates.
We have a meeting with the psychologist on Wednesday to find out the results of gs autism assessment. I'm a little stressed about that though I am not sure why, it doesn't change anything. On paper, where he is now he fits the requirements. Until you know that there is a history of childhood trauma and attachment issues. Because the resulting symptoms are the same. While I like our paediatrician, he doesn't have experience with difficult histories as I had to educate him on that.
Then Friday we have court. I shouldn't be worried about that either, because the only thing that has changed for sd is she is back at the shelter. Nothing is going to change there either, but the going to court part is always stressful.
Sd posted on fb yesterday she was depressed and it's affecting her motivation, and with such a short time frame of two weeks to get everything done before she is screwed. After I got over the anger that she actually thinks she has only had two weeks to get a place, a job, and get enrolled in school when she has had 6 months, and if we want to get technical she has had one year and seven months. Doing all this at the last minute doesn't prove stability at all. She has moved 6 time in 6 months, three of those times were to homeless shelters. A new school year started in sept, it's now October. The one job she ever had last two weeks, because the people were annoying and pissing her off. Took her a year and a half to find some place to hire her. Grade 7 can't even get you a job at mcD's. When she called last week her big idea is to leave cas because she is tired of them in her life. She doesn't get a ton of money from them now that she is 18 but it is enough to cover rent and food, and she still gets her medical benefits and drug plan. She doesn't have to do anything like go to school or have a job to receive the money which is often require from most other foster care systems after reaching 18. She can be covered until she is 21 and do nothing for it. But no she is just going to get a job so she doesn't have to see a social worker once every couple of months. Sorry I didn't intend to rant.
So do I tell sd court is in one week and not two? If feel like it would be the right thing to do, but on the other hand she is trying to prove she is a responsible and stable adult yet she still needs reminding of important dates.
She hasn't completed the requirements. My son SWORE he was given the wrong court date for the TPR hearing & that he RAN to the courthouse only to find out they had held the TPR hthe day before. 3.5 YEARS after it all started & the caseeorker had asked both parents to sign over thrir rights voluntarily because it woukd be better than having them terminated by a judge, but it came down to a court date that neither of them attended, & of course, it was everyone else's fault.
Dh asked our lawyer to file that we are seeking to terminate her rights so we can make this permanent, but when the psychologist who was doing gs autism assessment asked if we planned to adopt him I said yes and dh said no.
Then he tells sd that if she really doe get straighten out it's isn't going to be a fight to get her child back. He says this because he doesn't believe that is ever going to happen. But lying to her isn't the way to go simply because he doesn't want to get into an argument other her. He seems to forget that this is us against her, not her against CPS. They just got the ball rolling.
No, I wouldn't remind her. As others stated above, there will always be a reason no matter what. Mine also had over a year to get her life together, but waited until the last minute to take care of crucial matters. Then like yours, she posted on FB how stressed about all the things that were piling up on her at once.
By the way, my husband and I had to literally clean up the mess she left behind in the apartment she abandoned, and we did NOT post it on FB!