You may have to not answer some of her questions. You may have to say, "Honey, I'd really like to give you the answer to that question, but the caseworker is making the rules right now, and the caseworker told me I can't talk about that with you." Did you ever contact an attorney? Sorry, I can't remember. I really hope & pray you get your GKs back soon.

I have been praying for you and your family. It is a start...good for you to keep calling them.

I was so stressed in the beginning when my gs was placed with me I knew I had to jump through hoops.

Don't forget to take care of yourself, your no good if you run yourself down with all of the Social Service stuff...they made a mistake your a great grandma.

Judi

Thank you, I'll see if that works. yes I did contact an attorney, we have a motion in and are waiting for the judge. Of course the system is never in a hurry!

Your attorney can help you w the visits.
I'm going through a similar situation currently, waiting for the motion, hearing trial, whatever. I'm fortunate to have a good rapport with the fosters and can see my GS at CPS 2 hrs every week although there is never a room available and we meet in the lobby or parking lot for now. I know how it feels to be lost in the cracks and afraid to say much. I may get flack because I called the director yesterday in desperation, but I don't know who to talk to except my attorney. It will probably result in me getting stomped by an even bigger elephant,. Oh well!!!

You've got that right; the "system" is never in a hurry. And Yackie, I hope that elephant doesn't stomp on you at all. It doesnt' make sense that all of us feel like we're basically hostages of the system when WE are the ones doing our best to protect our GKs and do what is right for them. It should be the bios who feel intimidated, not us!!!! That's the one bad thing about feeling like we have no other choice BUT to get the state involved. We, too, are at their mercy and one bad CW or judge can have devastating consequences for everyone involved.

BTW, you mention your daughter alot in your post - telling you what your GKs are doing. How often is your daughter getting to see the kids? Is she also trying to get them back?????

GMaWill: Thank you, my daughter gets to see the kids once a week for two hours. Yes, she is trying to get the children back! She should have had them back a few weeks ago.The court appointed attorney has done nothing to assist my daughter in fighting for her kids in court. My lawyer was in the court room and saw this. The court appointed lawyer took her sweet time to sign and return the papers so her new hired attorney can motion the court for return... 6 weeks to be exact! A lot has happened that CPS has no cause for keeping the children from her, but I can't go into details. My motion is in a holding pattern waiting for the Judge to advise, which we are not going to pull just incase something comes up.

P.S to all...I'm left handed and my daughter told me last night GS is favoring his left hand. LOL daughter said, Mom I think you finally got your wish...All I could say back to my daughter was...That's My Boy!

So, you are both fighting for them at the same time?

Yep... But not in a bad way.
I brought the baby home from the hospital, and the two kids were with me for over a year. In Jan of this year, I had a heart condition which I asked the CW for assistance by putting the kids in Foster care until I knew what is happening or what I need to do to get better. When I was cleared from the Doctor in March, CPS refused the kids to come back to me. Supervisor told me I was a temporary placement. I hired an attorney and went to court in Mid April. But the AG for CPS forgot to send my attorney their motion to refuse me access into the case so we could fight for return of the kids. My court date was then bumped until my Attorney had time to submit his rebuttal and the Judge said, he will rule on allowing to intervene via mail. ( I'm on hold for this ruling)The day after court the Supervisor called me and removed my weekly visits and phone calls from /to the kids and placed me on a once a month supervised visit, which I get the first visit this month on the 27th.

My daughter should get her kids back and will. I wish I could go into detail with you as to why, but I can't talk about her. until after the hearing.

The play is daughter get's kids or I get kids, either way the goal is to get the kids back with family members who love them and out of the foster care system.

BTW: Grand-daughter lost her first tooth this past week. She told my daughter, Mom I put my tooth under my pillow every night, but the tooth fairy doesn't come, it's not working! Couldn't that foster mother take two minutes and place a quarter under her pillow before she goes to bed? Maybe it's not a Mexican custom, but if not, she should get to know the American customs.. I'm sure my GD has been telling her about the tooth fairy even since that tooth got lose. Tooth fairy has always been a big thing in our family for the kids, exspecialy the first tooth!..And I know the kids celebrated Cinco de mayo the Mexican way, per my GD story to my daughter about the pineta.

Nutsandbolts, the foster parent get a % of money for things like that. I went to a fosterparent info workshop and they showed how the funds are suppose to be spent.

Did anyone say anything to the SW about this? I don't have the paperwork with me right now I'm at work but even if fosterparent spend all the funds on GD you can ask for special funds for things like that from agency they told us that. I know "a quarter"??

I pray you hear soon...

Judi

Wow; how selfish of the foster parent not to indulge a child with a small token from the "tooth fairy" if that's what the child believes in and is excited about. I guess your daughter will have to tell her that the tooth fairy must not know where the foster family lives. Maybe she could buy one of those little tooth pillows and ask her daughter if she could take it to her house and try - then take the pillow back w/o a tooth - plus a token from the tooth fairy. ???? Sad, but maybe it would make her feel better. I hope one of you get the kids back soon.

Thanks Liam2010...I went to the fosterparent info workshop here and was told the same thing. I guess for some people after you get your license what you learn goes out the door. Just like she cut my GS hair twice and then a third after being told my daughter didn't give her permission.

GMaWilli...Sad part about the tooth pillow is 6 weeks ago I gave my GD a tooth pillow cause the week before she show'd us the tooth was loose. My daughter is going to blame it on the tooth pillow and give her a dollar...LOL

It'll all work out, soon the kids will either be with me or their MOM...Where they are loved for who they are, not how much income they are producing.