Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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Pinky has been faithful, coming down every weekend and taking over with the kids. A mixed blessing, but I put up with it.
On Monday our youngest got the flu, then his sister on Tuesday. Then I got it yesterday. Thank God my husband was able to take over because I had cement-head and was totally down for the count.
I realized that in the six months since Pinky has been visiting the kids have never been sick on the weekends. So she has never had to re-arrange her schedule to care for a sick child, drop everything to pick one up at school, get up at night to check on them, worry about them, take their temperature -- and do it all while she's sick herself!
No wonder she thinks parenthood is so terrific. She comes down Friday evening, watches movies with the kids, does their laundry, and plays games with them all weekend. You know, the kinds of things grandparents are supposed to do with the kids (except for the laundry, of course :-) Then her boyfriend picks her up and they go out to dinner somewhere and do whatever couples do (it's been so long I've forgotten. HAHAHA).
What a life!!!! Makes me sick all over again. BOOOO!
On Monday our youngest got the flu, then his sister on Tuesday. Then I got it yesterday. Thank God my husband was able to take over because I had cement-head and was totally down for the count.
I realized that in the six months since Pinky has been visiting the kids have never been sick on the weekends. So she has never had to re-arrange her schedule to care for a sick child, drop everything to pick one up at school, get up at night to check on them, worry about them, take their temperature -- and do it all while she's sick herself!
No wonder she thinks parenthood is so terrific. She comes down Friday evening, watches movies with the kids, does their laundry, and plays games with them all weekend. You know, the kinds of things grandparents are supposed to do with the kids (except for the laundry, of course :-) Then her boyfriend picks her up and they go out to dinner somewhere and do whatever couples do (it's been so long I've forgotten. HAHAHA).
What a life!!!! Makes me sick all over again. BOOOO!
When I talk to my son...I tell him "your so lucky that we were able to take the baby" he is always whinning that he is going to classes and so on to have a say so when he goes to court.
I would like to be a mouse in the corner when she has to do all those things and not get fired from her job! With the way the recession is my job is on the chopping block, I do make sure I write down why I am taking off so it doesn't look like I am just taking off but it still makes me stand out...
That's half of what I have issues with - should they ever get custody again, they have no idea what they are getting into, and the stress will just put them over the top again. And who will suffer? The child. The child will have to go through it all again, at best!
I believe in allowing the kids to call us whatever they want, as well. Our three grandchildren went through the "Mom" and "Mom-Mom" stages. When Pinky tried to correct them by saying they only had one mom, I told her (a) people have more than one mom - I call my mother-in-law mom and (b) you do the job, you get the title. She finally realized how silly she sounded and backed off. The kids refer to me as their mom when talking about me to their friends, but they still call me Mom-Mom.