My son's GF did not have custody of her previous 4 kids, as soon as number 5 was born DCF stepped in and took the baby before they left the hospital. My son is hoping to regain custody but as long as he stays with GF the chances are not great. If they do get her back DCF will be involved for a long time.

Having another kid does not always give you a chance to be a parent.

The courts are beginning to see the light. Preach best interest of child to anyone and everyone. You have established loving home where children are flourishing and any change would be detrimental. Regarding new baby they will probably give mom a chance unless proven she is actively using. Thats when they May take baby at hospital based on child abuse by mom taking substance that may have injure baby Montero.

With my dd, no drugs involved, I got custody of firstborn because she was 17 with no job and father abused him. I got custody of 5 year old when parents volunteered it , biodad out of state mom was supposed to join army. So dss won't be taking bag

Meant dss won't take baby. I think my dd has undiagnosed personality disorder and she's never been able to keep a job or housing. Maybe spouse will give her stable housing, but her mood swings are hard to prove so she will look ready for her kids , on paper. Realistically, she's never been able to handle them, school and daycare have always been my responsibilty., for both of them. Not to mention clothing toys activities, she can't and hasn't ever fully supported a child.
I'm scared for th future of this baby, and my other grands if she gets them . Then 6 months later it falls apart and I have 3 damaged kids to heal. If dss did take the baby. I think I'd step back on another. More likely she calls me losing her mind or drops baby off and doesn't return ...I'm getting more anxious as due date approaches .
We bought a camper. How long will I get to enjoy it before I lose what's left of my life to an infant?

We should never have to think about such stressful things as "how would I take care of a new baby, but on the other hand how do I give him or her up, especially once you see them/hold them" but most of us
here lay awake & have these thoughts, or have had them jn the past. I've seen a couple of people post about their daughter keeping a new baby while continuing to promise the older ones she would get them back, too, but the only scenario I read follow uo on was the older kids stayed with the grandma. I don't know if you can set your mind ahead of time to refuse to take the baby or not. Some people definitely could. I'm one who would cave as soon as i bonded with that baby........but then again, finances really must be considered, too. Giving up camping & being able to finally get out & about more freely with the older grands is a huge consideration. I would insist on a very slow & gradual transition if there is really a chance the older ones might go back to her. I would have a PI do a background check on the boyfriend before giving her unsupervised visits, too.

I have told my son there is no way I will take in another child. He can have all the kids he wants with the lady he is with now but DO NOT bring me any more children to care for. I have seen the 6 month old 3 times, once in the hospital, once for an hour at her other grandmothers and the day she was christened. I have held her once. I am not a "baby person". Once they start to crawl and walk they are fine but I do not take care of babies. I know I cannot take care of another one and will not make the two I have now suffer by me trying too.

There have been times I have said these two would be better off if they had been giving up for adoption, it would have been a permanent way to keep bio mom away. I pray everyday she stays away and lets us live in peace.

Stand your ground and do not take another one. I think the more we are willing to take the more they will have. There should be mandatory sterilization.

We are selling our camper this week, and if these parents have another, we will not even begin. Our ground is firm.

My son's ex girlfriend of one week, called me tonight to tell me that she is pregnant with my son's child. My son is already living with another girl. I don't know wether to laugh or cry.
She then tells me that she is planning to abort this child because, she already has one that she can't handle. I already have two, 9 and 14. But, I can't stand the thought of what she is planning. I told her there were other options. How much more can my heart stand?
What is wrong with these people that just throw children around and away?

She sounds pretty hateful. Why would she call you and tell you she is planning abortion? Try to let it go, I doubt it's true, more likely trying to either get son back or dig for something

Scgramma, I just told my husband that. Why would she tell me something like that? i just hope she is just wanting to start some drama with him, by telling me, she thinks I will say something to him.....

My DD came out of the woodwork one day and said...Do you know how much money you can make being a sergeant for a couple wanting a child now a days? My jaw dropped to the ground! I told her as she was smoking her legal Pot med...Most couples don't want that in their babies system, so I guess it's not a job for you. She got pissed and drove off..... I have no idea what to think of her or her thought pattern!

My step-daughter had a baby while we had temporary custody of her two year old daughter. She was engaged when she had a second daughter and was reunified with daughter we were taking care of. When her engagement broke up, she left both girls. Our oldest granddaughter was put in foster care and we had to go through a lot to get her back. (she's 7 years old now). Her youngest is being raised with her father and we maintain contact. My step-daughter is engaged again. She was pregnant again but decided to abort because he hormones made her not like her fiance, which makes no sense to me. It probably just wasn't his child.

Wow, GiGi, I think that's actually the 1st time I ever heard THAT excuse
for aborting........how sad.

Hormones / Abortion. Surrogates using pot. Have we now heard everything? Our lives have become so turned upside down by these 'parents' that we become accustomed to this. How awful for us, and the children.

Grammaga, my son had one of those ladies that claim they are pregnant after the break up. Most of the time these ladies are not pregnant, they are just making a last ditch effort to get the guy back. If they fail to get him then they blame him for an abortion that never happen. When it happened to my son I called the girls mother who politely told me her daughter was not pregnant and if she was the child could belong to one of about 15 men/boys.

Unless there is a baby born and there is paternity test go on the assumption she was never pregnant.