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Another one of my stepson's ex girlfriends gave birth to his child on 11/3..a boy 7lbs 8 oz named Skyler Jeremy and by the 1st of December yet another girl will give birth and she also says her child is his and it is also a boy.That will make him 3 sons born in one year by 3 different girls and he does absolutely nothing for any of them.My hubby and I have been doing all that we can for the 1st child [Dalton,9months].We keep him on weekends and try to help with formula,diapers and clothes.The mother is just 19 and is working and having to pay rent and everything else but right now she is only getting to work on weekends and her money doesnt stretch far enough to cover everything so we do all we can for her and him.But we are on a fixed income and barely have enough to cover our own bills and here is yet another child born to a young girl who has no one to help her but us.
All 3 of these girls have alot in common beside him.They all grew up in foster care with no family of their own and from what I can tell are pretty good girls who are not on drugs and work for what little they have but they were lonely and fell for his smooth talk and ended up pregnant and alone.Now because we refuse to turn our backs on our grandchildren we are left to pick up the peices and help raise these children while he hides out working jobs "under the table" so he doesnt have to pay child support.We are doing all we can to help the state find him to make him pay but he keeps moving around so they dont catch him.
We want to help make sure that all of these children get the chance to grow up knowing each other and to know that we love them even if their father does not.I have talked to the mothers and they all agree that the children have a right to know each other.We plan to keep all of them every other week end so they can be together.
We have heard rummers that there are one maybe two more girls who gave birth to babies by him the last part of 2009.We are trying to find out if they are true.I just wonder how many more there are out there that he has done this way.He told us that he has a son in Ohio.If the rummers are true that makes at least 5 sons,all under 3, he has and dont take care of.
My husband and I feel like he is a low life who is preying on young girls who have no one,getting them to trust him then taking what he can from them and then leaving them pregnant and alone.But we also feel that these children should not be made to suffer because he is what he is.I wonder if there is any kind of law against what he is doing? All of these girls were barely 18 when he got them pregnant and he is 27!!
All 3 of these girls have alot in common beside him.They all grew up in foster care with no family of their own and from what I can tell are pretty good girls who are not on drugs and work for what little they have but they were lonely and fell for his smooth talk and ended up pregnant and alone.Now because we refuse to turn our backs on our grandchildren we are left to pick up the peices and help raise these children while he hides out working jobs "under the table" so he doesnt have to pay child support.We are doing all we can to help the state find him to make him pay but he keeps moving around so they dont catch him.
We want to help make sure that all of these children get the chance to grow up knowing each other and to know that we love them even if their father does not.I have talked to the mothers and they all agree that the children have a right to know each other.We plan to keep all of them every other week end so they can be together.
We have heard rummers that there are one maybe two more girls who gave birth to babies by him the last part of 2009.We are trying to find out if they are true.I just wonder how many more there are out there that he has done this way.He told us that he has a son in Ohio.If the rummers are true that makes at least 5 sons,all under 3, he has and dont take care of.
My husband and I feel like he is a low life who is preying on young girls who have no one,getting them to trust him then taking what he can from them and then leaving them pregnant and alone.But we also feel that these children should not be made to suffer because he is what he is.I wonder if there is any kind of law against what he is doing? All of these girls were barely 18 when he got them pregnant and he is 27!!
I mentioned to my son that he should get fixed and he said no-way. I think to him that is the only great thing he thinks he can do. It is very sick to me and so unfair to the children in these situations.
God will bless you for helping them,
Judi
What can I say to give you hope and comfort? I often feel the same way. I know I find solace in knowing that I am not the only one that this has happened to and that it is not (all) my fault.
God Bless you for all that you do and for your kind and caring heart. Is there others in your large family that help you with all of this?
I gave all 3 of the mothers each others phone numbers and they have been talking and have come up with a plan that I think will be good for all of them.
M2's parents passed away when she was 12,she was an only child so she inherited a 5 bedroom house when she turned 18.She has invited the other 2 to move in with her so they can help each other and the babies can be together.This way they will be able to babysit for each other while they work,so that will take away one worry/bill for them.They have decided they will share all of the bills.
I got a call from a social worker who was assigned to m2 when she gave birth alone.She said that when she found out that the other 2 mothers were also going to living with her her supervisor told her to go ahead and help all 3.She said that she will only be able to help for about 6 months but that there were alot of things that she was already working to help them get settled.She said she had some churches who were going to help pay their bills for 6 months and help with food and even were going to adopt them all for Christmas.She said that she was even working getting them each a car through a program that takes vehicles that are seized in drug busts and gives them to people who needs them to get to work.That will help out alot because the only one who has a car is m2 and the motor is about to go in it.
I think things might be looking up for them.The best part is that they now have what they needed most ,A FAMILY.They have found "sisters" in each other ,they have their babies and they have "parents" in me and my hubby and we will help them and be here for them all we can.I cant wait for my step son to see that they dont need him,they are going to be just fine without him.
Not that it will be easy, but it will be easier together than separate! I am just so happy for them! :) If there is anything I can do long distance, please let me know! Do they need baby clothes? Household items? I have friends who would help out, I know. :)