Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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I have only had custody of second gd a couple weeks when I find out dd us pregnant again. I have a 7 and a soon to be 5. I have no interest in taking in another or having these 2 know she's pregnant. I don't even want my husband to know h till after the holidays .
She says she's going to adopt this one out. Her current bf says not if its his. She keeps threatening to leave him ect. He's stupid for thinking she would raise his any better than her own. She's lived with him since aug and has left twice only to return because she has nowhere to go. She insists she is adopting baby out.
Either she is dumb enough to belie e he would allow it, it shes just living off him until she thinks of another idea. He is good to her and her two kids, provides transportation for visitation, and buys them gifts and treats them well. How can she not see he would actually be good for her.
Haven't told my husband yet because he will either go ballistic and curse her out or jump into some fantasy where she will get herself together with this bf and raise her kids.
I've had the oldest 6 out of 7 years, he says 5 days w mommy is too long . Had 4yo over a year , she does cry for mommy sometimes but I don't know if she wants to live with her. Mommy has been jobless for a year. Goes boyfriend to boyfriend , and I don't see any sinus of changing . No drugs, just think she is borderline personality.
I don't want to be obsessed and depressed and angry over the next 7 months but I want to scream every day right now.
Best case scenario looks like her letting father have the child to me. I hope my star gazing husband will agree in that as he can be hard to listen to when he gets on a tangent .
Her Plan is not to tell the kids, but I don't know how long that will be possible . Is she actually not coming to see them from Christmas to July ?what is worse, her having another baby or ducking out on them long term like that. What is the best for them?
Stupid bf is married to someone he's trying to get a green card for, and he's in military so afraid of repercussions as well. Morons haven't used bc ever.
She says she's going to adopt this one out. Her current bf says not if its his. She keeps threatening to leave him ect. He's stupid for thinking she would raise his any better than her own. She's lived with him since aug and has left twice only to return because she has nowhere to go. She insists she is adopting baby out.
Either she is dumb enough to belie e he would allow it, it shes just living off him until she thinks of another idea. He is good to her and her two kids, provides transportation for visitation, and buys them gifts and treats them well. How can she not see he would actually be good for her.
Haven't told my husband yet because he will either go ballistic and curse her out or jump into some fantasy where she will get herself together with this bf and raise her kids.
I've had the oldest 6 out of 7 years, he says 5 days w mommy is too long . Had 4yo over a year , she does cry for mommy sometimes but I don't know if she wants to live with her. Mommy has been jobless for a year. Goes boyfriend to boyfriend , and I don't see any sinus of changing . No drugs, just think she is borderline personality.
I don't want to be obsessed and depressed and angry over the next 7 months but I want to scream every day right now.
Best case scenario looks like her letting father have the child to me. I hope my star gazing husband will agree in that as he can be hard to listen to when he gets on a tangent .
Her Plan is not to tell the kids, but I don't know how long that will be possible . Is she actually not coming to see them from Christmas to July ?what is worse, her having another baby or ducking out on them long term like that. What is the best for them?
Stupid bf is married to someone he's trying to get a green card for, and he's in military so afraid of repercussions as well. Morons haven't used bc ever.
Some might say I need to get over it. I'm afraid of I stop being mad my heart will break over another child. I cannot do this , I cannot take another . Told her she better stay with this bf , she said no, she'll stay now but she's going to dip out later. I told her she better leave Jim the child then. She thinks she will convince him to do open adoption . I doubt it . She said she doesn't want to pay child support .
Duh, I'm raising 2 you don't pay for. Last month she was fussing about food stamp cut. She's been getting over 300 a month for her and gd I'm raising. She never put more than cookies in this household .