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I am not a chronic complainer (honestly) but my daughter has me so confused, hurt & angry! I have had my grandbaby since June due to daughter being (supposedly) committed for substance abuse and some mental issues dealing with the death of her fianc (baby's bio).
She was in hospital for an evaluation for approx 5 days. The judge ruled that she should complete intensive out-patient treatment instead of inpatient due to the young age of her child. He was 10 months then. Judges do not like to send mom's with infants to inpatient because of the possibility of breaking the mother-child bond. HA! What a joke!
She has probably spent a total of 25 hours with this precious child during this entire 2.5 month period. Grandbaby would have seen his mom more often if she had been at inpatient treatment because I would have made sure of it - no matter how far the drive. We have told this girl she can come to our home & spend time with her child anytime and in fact offered to have her live here if she was drug- free.
She has not even entered any type of out-patient treatment as of today.
Social Services have given my hubby & I temporary custody of baby.
At our last "team" meeting it was decided that bio should see her son every evening (he's in daycare during the day). And also to spend an entire day during the weekend with him.
When she does visit- she strolls in about 1/2 hr before his bedtime and no weekend visits at all. Last night she called - again just before his bedtime and wanted to come see him. I told her no. And that she needed to call/come visit earlier in the day. I am so tired of trying to accommodate her and Social Services agreed that she needs to work around our schedule, since we both have jobs and she doesn't.
At this point I almost feel that these little 1/2 hr sporadic visits are doing nothing but confusing the little guy. I have a feeling that when we go to court in October, it will not look good for her. How can someone abandon their child like this? Because in my opinion that is exactly what she is doing.
She was in hospital for an evaluation for approx 5 days. The judge ruled that she should complete intensive out-patient treatment instead of inpatient due to the young age of her child. He was 10 months then. Judges do not like to send mom's with infants to inpatient because of the possibility of breaking the mother-child bond. HA! What a joke!
She has probably spent a total of 25 hours with this precious child during this entire 2.5 month period. Grandbaby would have seen his mom more often if she had been at inpatient treatment because I would have made sure of it - no matter how far the drive. We have told this girl she can come to our home & spend time with her child anytime and in fact offered to have her live here if she was drug- free.
She has not even entered any type of out-patient treatment as of today.
Social Services have given my hubby & I temporary custody of baby.
At our last "team" meeting it was decided that bio should see her son every evening (he's in daycare during the day). And also to spend an entire day during the weekend with him.
When she does visit- she strolls in about 1/2 hr before his bedtime and no weekend visits at all. Last night she called - again just before his bedtime and wanted to come see him. I told her no. And that she needed to call/come visit earlier in the day. I am so tired of trying to accommodate her and Social Services agreed that she needs to work around our schedule, since we both have jobs and she doesn't.
At this point I almost feel that these little 1/2 hr sporadic visits are doing nothing but confusing the little guy. I have a feeling that when we go to court in October, it will not look good for her. How can someone abandon their child like this? Because in my opinion that is exactly what she is doing.
What a frustration!!!!! I don't blame you one bit for saying "no" to her last-minute wanna-visits. She should be there when you get home from work if she really cares. Grrrrrrrrrr!
My BG's bio mom has been to my home to see her once in 2 1/2 years, Zero Birthday parties, zero Christmases or ANY holidays... not one penny of child support, NO gifts NOTHING... she calls once in a purple moon and makes a bunch of broken promises... she has only seen her 5 times in the past 2 1/2 years at other events. She passes my house to go to her friends etc but she don't have a way to visit her DD. But I have decided good riddance. per the court...she has to jump through flaming hoops, blind folded and backward to be able to even petition the court to get her back... as as of today she hasn't done one... thing... to work toward that. So I would prefer she stay away and stop calling all together.
Meanwhile we have no idea how her three kids will ever be able to go to any school once they graduate 12th grade.
Really SO unfair, isn't it?
But you know I guess I could have trusted her? HAHAHHAAHAHA! NOT!!