Lisa, that's pretty scary :-0

Do you think she would actually carry through with those threats?

I would definitely call her doctor and tell him/her about the threats. I might also make a police report -- depending where you live, you may be notified when she's released, so you can do something to protect yourselves.

I would tell her doctor & I would keep her out of those kids lives until i knew for certain that she was getting, taking, staying on meds to balance her out. You really need to understand that her threats to kill you are something she & the new boyfriend could act on!!!! Please do whatever you must to keep everyone in your home safe!!!!

What does her father say? I know this sounds mean but i think i would be hoping she would runaway!!!! Better than worrying she might turn up to murder me...& maybe everyone else in the house. This country needs changes to help the mentally ill. She obviously should be in an institution.

I would call the police and her doctor also asap - you are in my prayers and I have to say I agree with GMA - I would pray that she ran away or get some serious help.

I think too that you should take the threats VERY seriously - contact doctor, hospital and police. Someone with " mild" mental illness would not threaten such a thing ( more likely to threaten suicide ). Does she have access to guns or other weapons? Sounds quite unpredictable. Don't blow off the threats Healthy people don't make threats like this. Does she have bipolar disorder ? I'm praying that you and the children are safe. Please keep us updated on this situation.

thank you for the thoughts and prayers...I did call the doctors office and told the nurse what happened...of course I did not hear from the doctor...My husband received a call from her last night stating that she was getting out today. He is going to get her but I made it clear that she is not to come to the house and that she is not going to see the children. I told him this was my right according to the law and he totally agreed with me. I also told him that if she is serious about getting help then when she did receive the help and could prove that she was doing better then we would consider her seeing them. (my thoughts in a couple of years...is that bad?)

We are going to try a different approach with her about the children so hopefully this will help. If she does not want the responsibly of being part of their life then do not make her. If she wants to run away then go. One of her problems is that she cannot think through a process so if you ask her what to do... she gets all upset and cannot come up with the basic answer. Not sure if anything is going to help with this...her mother is the same way..unless they are in a very structured environment they do not function and when they think it is too hard they run.

As far as the mental boyfriend...I am guessing he is now out of the picture..sad part is...This man worked for me many years ago...he is about 17 years older than her and did not even remember the ages of his children when I asked him..ugh..I found out he is in another state..(both mental and physical..lol)

Thanks again for the thoughts..I will keep you posted..and believe me I keep everything documented and always have witness...

Maybe I missed my calling in life...as much research as I do...I should have been a lawyer...sad part is that my lawyers have said the same thing..ugh..I do the work and they just present the facts...

Blessings
Lisa

And send you the bill, no doubt.
Best of luck to you. May God send guardian angels to surround you & your family.

Lisa, you are not bad ! It's normal and sane to want to avoid unpleasantness and potential danger. I'd refuse the bio mom of contact with you and the kids for as long as it takes, which might be forever. That's not deprivation .... that's SAFE. Even IF it's all talk, the family doesn't HAVE to be exposed to it. It's not beneficial to anyone ( including the bio ). You owe it to the kids to protect them from her mental state. Honestly, that's much more constructive than feeling sorry for the step dgt. My dad was severely mentally ill and I loved him, so I'm not saying this with a bias against. the m. ill. Since she's making it very clear that she can't handle adulthood, you should lower your expectations and not expect her to take on adult responsibilities or to have adult thought processes. That does not release her from the reasonable expectation that there will be no further threats of any kind. It's unreal that the doctor didn't respond to your phone call. Did you contact the police ? It would be good to have this " episode " on the record. Do you or the kids have a therapist or social worker ? If so, they may be able to guide you with this. Stand STRONG.

If she is of legal age, per law, doctor cannot speak to you re dd. I w seek an order of protection and ask ex bf to make statement re her threats. Don't take threats lightly. First lesson in understanding mental illness is that she cannot control herself and attempts to reason w her w probably fail. I know it is your daughter and you love her but she is ill with a disease that controls her mind.

this is such a sad situation...I an authorized to obtain info on her progress..she signed the waiver at the hosptial and I am on her hippa at her prim care doctor...the doctor has switched her meds and my husband went and saw her yesterday and stated that she was not talking out of her head but still did not talk about anything important. I have not contacted the police but have a dear friend on the department that I feel I will tell and let me make a note of it. Her mother is not stable and it is sad that she is following the same pattern. Today the husband asked when I might consider letting her see the children and I stated I am not sure when. (i did not tell him maybe never) I also stated that if she calls me today about coming and getting her... I prob will not do it. Trying to be rational about all of this with out a lot of emotions but goodness grief...it is hard..
The husband asked what the balance might be and I stated that at this point there is no balance with her so I do not know...I understand that he is more affected about this because it is his daughter...I try to understand that when handling this but then I tell him that according to the courts these grandbabies are just as much ours as if we had them... so here lies one of the problems.emotions..ugh...once again thanks for the prayers and wonderful words of encouragement:)