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A group focused on motivating all members to GOYA= "Get off Your A@#'s" and exercise to help maintain a spiritually fit body and mind.. All are welcome regardless of ones affiliation, however the emphasis is on motivation and education in regards to exercise and nutrition. Have fun and GOYA!

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donttread 10/20/2013

Going through something. I'd say it's a bit of a midlife crisis but I doubt I'm going to live to 108 so I'm not sure what it is. I, concerned for my kids and grandkids and their problems and in some cases feel I may have let them down. I seem to suck at many of my hobbies and avoid the things I'm best at. I've gained 40 of 120 lbs I lost back and sugar and bread are once again my God's. and I know their effect on me goes much deeper than my waistline. I have little face to face time with my friends and a good but pretty much sexless marriage. I'm the listener in the family and it throws my wife when I'm down so I can't talk to her about whatever this is and it's really not a topic for an AA meeting. I've tried to start an online blog/ hobby business and failed miserably, failed that is to get any traffic so I don't even know if people would have liked what I have to offer. I can feel myself going into depression but don't seem to have the energy to stop it. Probably nothing that an early retirement, a few bucks and a 27 year old hooker couldn't cure! LOL
Sorry to post this here but I feel more connected to this group than I do to the main board. Thanks for the reach out Rick., I'm off shortly to go hunting which I suck at instead of fishing which I'm pretty good at? WTH?

onetoomany 10/20/2013

Hi DT, I am sorry to hear you are feeling down.

Have you considered seeing a therapist or counselor?
It may really help to talk to someone.

donttread 10/21/2013

Not really but maybe it would help thanks

Mandoman 10/21/2013

Don't beat your self up. I think everyone who has had a problem with the booze goes through these cycles of ups and downs. I know I do. With me it's always tied to something that's going on in my life. Especially pain. Both emotionally and physically. Last year when my shoulder went out and I couldn't do anything I got back on the sugar kick big time. I would eat it, feel great for a little bit then start feeling like crap and then eat some more. Rinse and repeat.

For starters why don't you try cleaning up your diet and see what happens. Just say no to the sugar and bread and see what happens. After I did I was amazed at how much better I felt both mentally and physically. Maybe then you will have the energy to take care of other stuff.

gjm 10/21/2013

Don, hope things get better soon.
On the bright side your identifying whats going on and sure you will correct it.

donttread 10/22/2013

Thanks all and yes the diet is a big piece of it but that bad stuff taste soooo good.

Rick8 10/22/2013

Lack of energy can be a sign of depression. I agree with all said. Take baby steps. Start with the diet. A sexless marraige is usually not a good one. Might want to look further into that with posssibly a marraige counselor or 27 year old hooker to guide you:)

If you start losing the weight it will likely boost your confidence and put you in the right direction. You seem to be beating yourself up pretty bad. Remember......attitude is everything!

donttread 10/26/2013

I think you'd be surprised how many sexless marriages are out here. Hsterectomy plus no meds = no interest and has any man knows its all about if she wants to and never about if we want to

onetoomany 10/26/2013

Um there is always oral sex….she can do that whether she is in the mood or not…..it is quick and easy.
That way you get satisfied and she can go on about her business.

I don't understand why women become so selfish with sex, but I do hear about it a lot.

Rick8 10/27/2013

DT- LOL...point well taken...blow up doll perhaps?:)

donttread 10/29/2013

Get with the times Rick, there are FEMBOTS now!

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