First of all, let me put out there that I support gay rights and believe that everyone is born on this earth equally.  I had always thought that my son had gay tendencies even as a toddler.  He use to like to wear my clothes, would only hang out with girls, wasn't really into sports...which doesn't make him straight or gay but he would just act more feminine than most of the boys that we knew.  As he grew into a young teenager most of that went away and he had  been talking about girls a lot and I would even catch him staring enamorously at a beautiful woman on tv.  He just recently started the 7th grade and had told us there were several girls at his school that he had a crush on and even thought about asking one of them to the upcoming dance.  He said there are openly gay kids at his school which never bothered him and he never talked about it or asked me about it. He is a very excepting kid and to my knowledge doesn't pass judgment on anyone.  Last night, as most parents would do, I was looking at his cell phone and came across some pictures of half naked men (adult men).  Most of the pictures were of the "bottom part" of the men's genitals and were all covered.  Some of the pictures weren't even of their faces.  My first reaction was a little shocked but more bothered because A. they were grown men, B. was some pedophile sending him these pictures and C. what was his fascination.  I had some questions for him but wanted to approach him in a way that he wouldn't get mad or embarrassed.  I was upfront and told him that I saw these pictures on his phone.  Of course he asked me why I was looking at his phone and I told him because he was 12 and I have every right do it, although I do my best to give him his privacy to an extent.  I asked him why he had these pictures and he said he didn't know how they got there. My first reaction to that was he didn't want to talk about it.  I told him that I needed to know if anyone sent him these pictures and he said no.  He said that he saw them online and had "accidently" saved them.  Again, feeling embarrassed and I knew that wasn't true.  I decided to take another approach and told him that when I was his age I use to look at pictures of women because I thought they were beautiful and I had hoped to look like them someday but I knew that I had liked boys.  I never questioned my sexuality but I did think all women were beautiful and would look at their bodies.  I finally just came out and asked him if he was gay and if he found these men to be attractive.  He didn't answer.  I asked him if there were any boys that he liked and he didn't answer.  I told him that whatever he was and whoever he was that I was his mother and love him no matter what & would never judge him at all.  I needed him to know that because I felt like he wanted to tell me something but was too afraid.  He finally said (with his face down) that he liked to look at men's underwear but did like girls.  I didn't want to rock the boat anymore so I left it alone and told him that I love him no matter what he likes/dislikes/interests, etc. He said that he knew but was very embarrassed and uncomfortable and asked that I not bring it up again.  I told him that I wouldn't but I would be lying right now if I said that this isn't bothering me.  I can accept that he's gay, although I worry more about bullying, I just want him to accept who is too and I think right now he's very confused.  I'm not sure what to think or how to feel or handle his very sensitive emotions.  I'm looking for some guidance, a helping hand or even just someone to talk to who may know and understand what I'm going through.  He made me promise not to tell my husband and I feel like I owe it to him not to say anything.  Any advice would sure be soooo helpful!