My sexual preference is Vers and I am attracted to men who are moreso masculine but also comfortable in there feminen qualities. (Like 75/25 or even 50/50 could be ideal.) However, I am having issues with getting my boyfriend to bottom for me consistently. I believe in reciprocation, so I feel like you should just be willing to bottom for me because you say you love me. He stated that he is vers but he rarely bottoms for me. I bottom for him most of the time but it is getting old to me. Im starting to think that I would prefer bottoms because I want to top like 75% of the time. I want him to just bottom for me and put him self in the feminem role, but its like I have to force myself to be more assertive. Maybe one of my issues is that Im prone to overthinking, so its harder for me to get in the moment, because Im always thinking, "What if Im not doing this right" or "What if Im not pleasing/turning him on?". I come off as very masculine, but when it comes to sex, its like Im either overthinking it or am just more of a submissive top. I want to be able to step more into my dominant role but then I start to become overly aggressive. SIDE NOTE: I recently came I a few years back so, I still have alot of my stereotypical straight man tendecies. But I feel like I cover it up because I dont want to be hyper masculine.... ANY ADVICE?!?!... Do I need to step more into a dominant role OR should asking be just enough? I can easily find a bottom out there willing but I choose to value my relationship.

ANY ADVICE would be greatly appreciated...